win another conversation<\/a>. Notice I didn’t say win the argument, prove your point, or convince the other person they are wrong. If you win the argument but the person never wants to talk to you again, you have ultimately lost.<\/p>\nThis is true when dealing with questions from atheists as well.<\/p>\n
So here are a few practical suggestions on how to answer questions from atheists (or whomever).<\/p>\n
1. Usually, people ask questions because they want to know the truth<\/h2>\n While people sometimes ask questions simply to trip you up or confuse you, most people ask questions because they want to know the truth. Or at least, they want to know what you believe about a particular topic.<\/p>\n
Atheists often get a bad rap among Christians, but in my experience, many atheists are atheists simply because they have the courage to ask questions many Christians are afraid to ask, and when Christians hear these questions from atheists, the Christians either condemn the atheist for asking such questions, or gives some answer that is not really an answer at all.<\/p>\n
In other words, some people become atheists because they stop to ask the hard questions about God, Scripture, life, and Jesus Christ, while many Christians are too afraid of these hard questions, and run away from them whenever and wherever they surface.<\/p>\n
My conviction is that truth can stand up to all questions. If what we believe is true, there is no question we need to fear.<\/p>\n
So if what we believe is true, we do not need to fear any question or challenge.<\/p>\n
2. If you don’t know the answer, say so!<\/h2>\n While there may be an answer to every question, this is not the same thing as\u00a0knowing\u00a0<\/em>the answer to every question.\u00a0 \n<\/em><\/p>\nSo when questions come up with you cannot answer (and they will!), rather than accuse the person of questioning God, or rather than get angry and storm off in a huff, or rather than tell them to just go read the Bible, the best way to respond is to say these magic words:<\/p>\n
That’s a GREAT question. I don’t know the answer. Let me look into it and get back to you.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Remember, the number one goal of any conversation with any person is not to win the debate or argument, but to win another conversation. The simple statement above affirms the person who asked the question and invites them to continue discussing these matters with you. This statement praises them for thinking things through so carefully, tells them that it is safe to voice their doubts and fears, and indicates that you are willing to learn along with them.<\/p>\n
However, everything I have said above gets thrown out the window in one certain circumstance. This is the third thing to remember when trying to answer questions from atheists or anybody else.<\/p>\n
3. When a person is in pain, they are not really looking for answers.<\/h2>\n I do not know the context of the conversation that was held between the person who sent in the email above and the atheists who asked the questions.<\/p>\n
I do know, however, that I have heard these sorts of questions before, and often they are asked in the context of great pain. Most often, they are asked because a parent has just lost a son or daughter, and a Christian comes along trying to console the parent by saying, “God understands what you are going through. After all, He also knows what it is like to lose a son.”<\/p>\n
Most people are too polite (even in their pain) to object to such a statement, but some people will respond negatively.<\/p>\n
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Some people will ask questions like the ones above. “What do you mean God knows what it is like to lose a son? He knew the death of his son was coming. I didn’t! He knew his son would rise again. I don’t! He knew his son would only be gone for three days. Mine is gone forever! They had eternity together before God lost a son, and eternity together afterwards. I have neither of those things! What does God know about losing a child? Nothing!”<\/p>\n
I do believe there are answers to such questions, but I have learned that when a person is suffering or in pain, this is not the best time for theological debates and discussions. When a person is in pain, this is not the time for Christian platitudes and cliches.\u00a0When people are suffering and in pain, the best thing to do is just to be with them, love them, serve them, and keep your mouth shut.<\/p>\n
This is even true when people ask questions about God. When people cry out, “Why is God doing this to me?” they really don’t want you to attempt an answer. People in pain and suffering don’t need lessons in theology. They don’t need Scripture quotations. What they need is sympathy, compassion, love, and the reassurance that while we do not know why certain things happen, God is not angry, is not punishing them, and God is not out to destroy their life or that of their family members. It is the thief who comes to steal, kill, and destroy; not God.<\/p>\n
I often think that Job’s friends did a great job comforting Job, all the way up until one of them opened his mouth. Once they started trying to explain Job’s pain, that is when they became miserable comforters.<\/p>\n
So when people ask, “Why me?” they don’t want you to answer. They just want you to be with them in their pain. If you answer at all, the most you can say is, “I don’t know.”\u00a0\u00a0This is also the most honest and truthful thing to say, because you\u00a0don’t know\u00a0<\/em>why bad things happen in this world.<\/p>\nWhenever you are dealing with questions from atheists, consider the context of the questions, and remember that whether you know the answer or not, your primary goals are to respect them as people, value them as human beings, be with them in their pain, and love and serve them in ways that win you the chance for another conversation.<\/p>\n
Having said all this, the next post will begin to offer some possible answers to the questions from atheists that were stated above.<\/p>\n
Until then, what suggestions can you offer about how to handle difficult questions from people with whom you may disagree?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Here are three suggestions for how to answer questions from atheists (or from anybody who disagrees with you about politics, lifestyle, or theology). Whenever you are dealing with questions from atheists, consider the context of the questions, and remember that whether you know the answer or not, your primary goals are to respect them as people, value them as human beings, be with them in their pain, and love and serve them in ways that win you the chance for another conversation.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":27867,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_bbp_topic_count":0,"_bbp_reply_count":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count":0,"_bbp_voice_count":0,"_bbp_anonymous_reply_count":0,"_bbp_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_forum_subforum_count":0,"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2231],"tags":[1491,1747,19,1249],"class_list":{"0":"post-27836","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-redeeming-theology","8":"tag-atheists","9":"tag-bible-and-theology-questions","10":"tag-discipleship","11":"tag-evangelism","12":"entry"},"yoast_head":"\n
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