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If we had never heard their stories, how could we possibly really know them? <\/p>\nEverett and his wife lived near my wife and me. Everett loved his rose garden, and spent many hours there, weeding, pruning, fertilizing, spraying insecticide, and cutting fresh blooms to give to friends and neighbors. Everett also attended the same church we attended. We met at Everett\u2019s house every Thursday evening for a summer Bible study.<\/p>\n
Everett was elderly and had health problems. One Thursday when we went to his home for Bible study, he mentioned that he was not feeling well. Three days later the pastor announced in church that Everett had passed away on Saturday. A few days later we attended his funeral service at the church.<\/p>\n
One of Everett\u2019s sons delivered his eulogy, and included numerous biographical details. Everett had been a very accomplished person with many skills. He had a distinguished career as a decorated officer in the military. He had been an outstanding and well-known engineer. His son revealed detail after detail about Everett that none of us had ever heard.<\/p>\n
Everyone in the church was astonished. None of us had known any of those things about Everett, even though he and his wife had attended our church for almost ten years. It seemed that we had never really known Everett. He was one of those people who didn\u2019t brag about himself or his accomplishments and none of us had ever bothered to ask him to tell us about his life.<\/p>\n
How was it possible that we knew he loved roses, he drove a blue Buick, he attended the same church we attended, and he and his wife hosted a Bible study at their home, yet we knew almost nothing about him? What else about Everett had we missed?<\/p>\n
That experience served as a wake-up call for some of us. We realized that our lives were filled with people who were merely acquaintances. We knew a little about them, but never knew their stories. We had never bothered to ask.<\/p>\n
If we had never heard their stories, how could we possibly really know them? <\/p>\n
In this age of messages limited to one hundred forty characters, how well do we really know most people? We have huge amounts of information at our fingertips, information that we can access in seconds, but how often do we bother to get to really know other people?<\/p>\n
Frequently people tell me \u201cI have no close friends,\u201d or \u201cI have only one or two people that I\u2019m really close to.\u201d As I write this, I am reminded that just yesterday evening a man I have known for many years told me \u201cIf anything happens to me, I\u2019m screwed. I have no one.\u201d<\/p>\n
How is it possible that our culture is filled with people who have no one or almost no one? Almost everywhere I go I see people walking, driving, sitting in restaurants, riding on public transportation, and involved in almost every conceivable activity while talking on their cellphones or pressing keys on their cellphones and tablets, seemingly very involved with their electronic communications devices. How can they have no one or almost no one in their lives when they appear to be connected almost all the time to other people?<\/p>\n
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\u201cI have hundreds of friends on Facebook.\u201d <\/p>\n
\u201cHow many of these people do you know outside Facebook?\u201d I often ask.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat do you mean?\u201d <\/p>\n
\u201cHow many of them have you ever met in person?\u201d<\/p>\n
The usual response? \u201cA few.\u201d Sometimes, \u201cOne or two.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cHow do you know they are who they claim to be? How do you know that the pictures and the things they tell you about themselves on Facebook are true if you\u2019ve never met them in person? Maybe the pictures are of someone else, or pictures of the person from a long time ago. Maybe they make up the stuff they say.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cHmmm. Well I don\u2019t really know.\u201d<\/p>\n
Many of us don\u2019t really know. We don\u2019t really know many, if any other people very well at all. Nor do we really know very much of anything about many of the people we think we know.<\/p>\n
How often have we turned on the evening news to yet another story of someone who committed some atrocious act and heard the reporter interviewing that person\u2019s neighbors and acquaintances and heard \u201cWe were shocked.\u201d How could the person who lived next door or across the street have done what they did?<\/p>\n
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Many of us believe that we were created in the image of God, but have we been able to discover that image in people? What does it look like and how do we go about discovering it?<\/p>\n
I am making the assumption that the image of God in people does not mean that we physically resemble God, but that some of his attributes may be found in us, albeit in a lesser degree. Many of his attributes might be found in us but let us consider three, love, mercy and grace. <\/p>\n
In order to determine if people might possess these attributes, first we must get to know them. Mr. Upstanding Citizen in his private life may be something very different from his public persona. The homeless person we see sitting by the side of the road dressed in tattered, dirty clothes might be one of the most loving, merciful and grace-filled people in town. <\/p>\n
Really knowing people involves more than recognizing them, being acquainted with them and maybe knowing a few basic facts about them, such as their names, where they live or work, and perhaps a few other bits of surface information. It includes knowing their stories, even if in abbreviated form.<\/p>\n
Knowing their stories and getting to really know them includes getting to know where they come from and discovering some of the things that have been their joys in life, as well as the things that have caused them pain. Whom do they love? Who loves them? How do they show love and care and grace both to themselves and to others?<\/p>\n
In my experience getting to know people well happens most successfully when we spend time and share space with them, which allows us to interact with them face-to-face, observe who they are and hear their stories. <\/p>\n
Is this necessary? Must we really go to so much trouble? Is it not enough to recognize that the Bible says we are created in God\u2019s image? On the other hand, don\u2019t most of us know people who look and act nothing like what we suppose someone created in God\u2019s image should look and act like? Perhaps it is necessary to get to know people well if we are to know if some of his attributes are actually present in them.<\/p>\n
In the next two posts in this series we will discuss getting to know other people by spending time and sharing space with them, and getting to know them by hearing and knowing their stories. If you want to get to know other people and see God in them, you don’t want to miss these posts! <\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" To see the image of God in others, we must get to know others. In my experience getting to know people well happens most successfully when we spend time and share space with them, which allows us to interact with them face-to-face, observe who they are and hear their stories. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":41661,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_bbp_topic_count":0,"_bbp_reply_count":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count":0,"_bbp_voice_count":0,"_bbp_anonymous_reply_count":0,"_bbp_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_forum_subforum_count":0,"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2245],"tags":[2436,1731,1394],"class_list":{"0":"post-41655","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-redeeming-life","8":"tag-image-of-god","9":"tag-loving-others","10":"tag-sam-riviera","11":"entry"},"yoast_head":"\n