\u201csalvation\u201d is the primary word of this sort<\/a>, but the word “fellowship” is similar.\u00a0Often, when people read in Scripture about “fellowship with God” they think it is referring to having eternal life or being born again.<\/p>\nBut the word fellowship<\/em> does\u00a0not refer to gaining eternal life, but to the experience of life within the family of God. This is especially true for the word fellowship.<\/em><\/p>\nThe word fellowship <\/em>is a translation of the Greek word koin\u014dnia <\/em>(2842). \u201cFellowship\u201d is a good translation, but not if we think of \u201cfellowship\u201d as what typically happens on a Sunday morning in most church buildings.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n
Your Church is Not Really a Fellowship<\/h2>\n
Though many churches call themselves a \u201cFellowship,\u201d the people who gather there are not often good examples of genuine fellowship. The term refers to a friendship, a community, a partnership, of having common interests, desires, goals, directions, and even possessions.<\/p>\n
The term “fellowship” is a favorite expression for the close, intimate friendship that exists between a husband and wife, and also for the unity one experiences in the context of brotherly love. So the word fellowship <\/em>is not about gaining<\/em> a relationship, but rather about maintaining<\/em> the friendship, love, and unity within <\/em>a relationship.<\/p>\nRelationship vs. Fellowship<\/h2>\n
To understand how this works, it is helpful to think of our relationship and fellowship with God as we think about these with other person.<\/p>\n
There is a vast difference between being born into a family, and having a positive experience within that family. <\/strong><\/p>\nFor there to be a positive experience in a family, certain things need to happen. Everybody in the family needs to participate, help out, contribute, love, forgive, and work together as a team.<\/p>\n
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It is a lot of work to maintain harmonies and loving fellowship within a family.<\/p>\n
Sometimes the friendships that are to naturally exist within a family begin to break down. A son might rebel against his parents. Parents might abuse or neglect their children. Such activities will result in a loss of fellowship, friendship, or “togetherness.”<\/p>\n
It is even possible for families to be so broken that people who are related to one another by blood might not see or talk to each other for years at a time. In some cases, family members might spend most of their lives apart, such as when a parent abandons a child or gives them up for adoption, or when a child runs away from home and severs all contact with his or her family.<\/p>\n
But note that even in these situations where the families are severely broken, this does not cause the relationship itself <\/em>to stop. <\/strong><\/p>\nFrom a biological, or \u201cblood relative\u201d perspective, children are always related to their parents, and vice versa, even if they break off contact for years at a time or never know each other at all. This is not an ideal situation, nor is it the way God intended families to function, but it is a very common situation for many people.<\/p>\n
We could say that in such situations, while the relationship itself <\/em>continues to exist, there is no fellowship or friendship between the separated family members.<\/p>\nThey are related<\/em>, and nothing can ever erase that relationship, but they do not have fellowship.<\/p>\nEven if someone changes their last name, considers their family members as dead, or gets legally-binding court documents to change their identity, the biological fact of the relationship remains unchanged and unchangeable.<\/p>\n
This is exactly how it works with the family of God.<\/p>\n
Once a person is born into the family of God, they cannot be unborn. Once a person is in the family of God, they have entered into an unbreakable and unchangeable relationship with God and with every other member of the family.<\/p>\n
Even if this person says they hate God, hate Christians, and wants nothing ever to do with God or His people ever again (just as nearly every teenager says or thinks from time to time about their own parents or family), the fact of the relationship remains unchanged and unchangeable.<\/p>\n
The relationship is eternal even if the fellowship is not.<\/strong><\/p>\nBut again, this is not God\u2019s ideal, and this is not what God wants or desires for the people who have an eternal and unbreakable relationship with Him.<\/p>\n
God desires both relationship\u00a0and<\/em> fellowship with and between His children.<\/p>\nThis also is the healthiest and happiest way to live within the family of God. This is why the Bible contains so much teaching about how to have fellowship with God and with one another.<\/p>\n
In fact, it is not an exaggeration to say that most of the Bible contains teachings of this sort. Though the word \u201cfellowship\u201d is not always used, the vast majority of Scripture is not about how to join the family of God or be born again into the family, but about how to live within the family of God so that we can have the healthiest and happiest relationships possible with God and with each other.<\/p>\n
So when the Bible talks about fellowship with God, it is not telling non-believers how to gain eternal life or join the family of God, but is instead telling believers (people who are already part of the family of God) how to enjoy and fully experience their relationship with God and with other Christians.<\/p>\n
One key passage that is helped by this understanding is 1 John 1:6-7.<\/p>\n