lesson on Election in the Gospel Dictionary Online Course<\/a>.<\/p>\n Let me just say that the word “calling” has nothing whatsoever to do with God’s irresistible call of some people to eternal life. It is not about who goes to heaven after they die. Calling, as we see here, is about God inviting some people to get involved with His purposes for this world. It is call to serve Him and what He wants to do in this world.<\/p>\n
Here in Ephesians 1, Paul is saying that as followers of Jesus, God is our boss, and He is calling us to perform a task. He is giving us instructions on how to walk as a Christian. It is not that He is calling us to be Christians. No, we already are Christians, and it is to us that God is assigning a specific responsibility.<\/p>\n
And the first instruction or assignment is to Walk in Unity.<\/p>\n
The church is supposed to live in unity because this is how we show the world how to live in unity.<\/p>\n
But there’s a problem with unity. Though everyone wants unity, nobody really knows how to achieve it.<\/p>\n
Most people today seem to think that unity requires conformity. Oh sure, we want unity, but we think that unity is achieved when everybody thinks the same way we do, talks the same way we do, dresses the same way we do, and has the same opinions we do. Where differences occur, division results, and unity dies.<\/p>\n
Most often, when we are in a conflict with someone, when we are not at peace with someone else, we think it is the responsibility of the other person<\/em> to change their ways<\/em>, so we can get along with them. We point at their faults and what they said, or what they did, and say that if there is going to be peace, they have to change.<\/p>\nBut Paul challenges all of this in Ephesians 4:2-3. In these next two verses, Paul shows how we can have unity with others, even when there is disagreement.<\/p>\n
How to Be Unified when Differences Exist<\/h2>\n The key to unity when differences exist was, not surprisingly, first taught by Jesus in the Sermon on the Mount. In Matthew 7:3-5, Jesus says that when you see a fault in your brother–Jesus calls it a speck in your brother’s eye–first take the plank out of your own eye. Then you will be able to see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.<\/p>\n
The implication, in my opinion, is that we will never come to the end of the plank in our own eye, and so therefore, never really get to the place where we confront our brother about the speck in his eye. Because be honest … it’s not that we all have a plank in our eye … most of us have entire lumber yards in our own eyes. We have piles and piles of planks. And taking one plank out of your own eye just clears up your own vision well enough to see ten more planks in your own eye.<\/p>\n
So in other words, Jesus is saying that if we want to get rid of sin in the world, … just focus on yourself. There’s more than enough in your own life<\/em> that needs to be fixed.<\/p>\nAnd this is essentially what Paul writes here in Ephesians 4:2-3. So you want to live in unity? Well, guess what? The problem with unity isn’t that your fellow Christian is wrong in the way they think or behave. The problem with unity is in your own heart. So if you want to walk in unity, look to your own heart first. Take the plank out of your own eye first.<\/p>\n
In Ephesians 4:2-3, Paul lists seven planks that we need to consider. Seven attitudes that we need to develop in our own hearts if we want to achieve unity.<\/p>\n
Achieving unity is not about “changing them” but about changing me.\u00a0 To achieve unity, work on developing the Seven Attitudes of Unity in your own heart.<\/p>\n
The Seven Attitudes of Unity<\/h2>\n Ephesians 4:2-3. with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love, endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.<\/strong><\/p>\nThese two verses list seven attitudes that you need to personally have in order to walk in unity. Let\u2019s take them one at a time.<\/p>\n
1. Lowliness.<\/h2>\n Lowliness means humility, lowliness of mind, the esteeming of ourselves as small. The Greek word Paul uses here was coined by Christians. In Greek, there is no word for humility that does not have some sort of meanness or insult attached to it. Before Christianity, humility was not considered to be a virtue at all. The ancient world looked upon humility as a thing to be despised. The Greek language did have an adjective for humble, but it was always associated with being a slave, being without honor, cringing. If someone was described as being humble, they were looked upon as a cowering, groveling, beggarly, and inferior human being.<\/p>\n
And that\u2019s even somewhat true today, isn\u2019t it? It is not always a compliment to be called humble in today\u2019s back-stabbing, self-advancing, look-out-for-number-one corporate economy. But one of the supreme virtues in Christianity is this lowliness, this humbleness. The same word is used only one other time in the NT, in Philippians 2:3 when Paul says that each one of us should regard each other as more important than himself. And there, in Philippians 2, who is Paul\u2019s supreme example of humility?<\/p>\n
In Philippians 2:5, Christ is the supreme example! Though he was God, he made himself nothing. Though He had the right to rule, He became a servant. Though He was immortal, He died a criminal\u2019s death on a cross. He who was exalted becomes despised, and He who was high becomes low. Jesus Christ is our example of this kind of humility. Here in Ephesians 4:2, Paul calls us to have this same attitude of humility and lowliness that Christ had in Philippians 2.<\/p>\n
Is that how you view yourself? As unworthy of attention? As the servant of all? As less important than anyone else? Or do you get upset when nobody notices what you have done and how much you know? The person who is lowly and humble does not expect recognition or repayment for what they have done. So first, we need to have an attitude of lowliness or humbleness.<\/p>\n
2. Gentleness<\/h2>\n The word\u00a0gentleness<\/em>\u00a0is a fascinating word in Greek. It comes from the word\u00a0praotes<\/em>, which means gentle<\/em> or meek<\/em>. In English, when we think of someone as gentle or meek, we think of them as weak. But\u00a0praotes<\/em>\u00a0does not imply weakness. It implies great strength being withheld<\/em>.<\/p>\nThink of a gentle giant. Great strength under control. I am by no means super strong, but when I hold my newborn daughter, I feel like a powerful giant with her frail body in my hands. So I hold her gently. That is what this word has in mind.<\/p>\n
But another aspect of the word is found by looking at its root. In Greek, the root of praote<\/em>s is\u00a0praus<\/em>. Praus<\/em> is the word used for a tamed beast. In Greek, a praus<\/em> was an animal, like a lion or a bear, which has been trained and domesticated until it is completely under control. So a tamed man, a gentle man, is the person who has every instinct and passion under perfect control.<\/p>\nAs we all know, none of us are able to do this completely. Only one person in history could qualify as being completely gentle, and this man was Christ. In fact, Christ uses the same word of himself in Matthew 11:29 when He says that He is gentle and lowly in heart. Now, would any of us call Christ weak? Hardly! He was God in human form! He has all power, but it was restrained. I mentioned praus<\/em>\u00a0means a tamed beast. Another name for Jesus is \u201cThe Lion of the Tribe of Judah.\u201d<\/p>\nSo when we take all of this, and put it together, we should not be picturing a docile creature. Many of tend to think that being gentle means being compliant, mild-mannered and complacent. It means nothing of the sort. Gentleness is power restrained. Controlled ferociousness. This means that someone who is gentle can till use force, and can still get quite angry when circumstances call for it.<\/p>\n
Did Jesus get angry? Yes, quite frequently. Remember when he cleared out the temple? Praotes<\/em>, gentleness, does not mean never getting angry. It means getting angry at the right time, in the right measure, and for the right reason. It is the idea expressed in Ephesians 4:26, which says, \u201cBe angry, and do not sin.\u201d<\/p>\nSo being gentle does not mean never getting angry. There are times to be angry, and if you are gentle, if you are praotes, you will know when to be angry, how to be angry and what to do when angry. First, lowliness, second, gentleness.<\/p>\n
Third, we are to be long-suffering.<\/p>\n
3. Long-suffering<\/h2>\n The word here is\u00a0makrothumia<\/em>, and can also be translated patience<\/em>. This word was used when explosives were invented of having a long fuse. Again, it does not mean a lack of power. Does dynamite lack power? No. It has the ability to destroy and annihilate. But a stick of dynamite with a long fuse takes quite a while to explode. And power like dynamite is exactly what you have in Christ as we saw in Ephesians 1-3. So you need to make sure you have a long fuse on your power.<\/p>\nVery possibly, there are people who are trying to provoke you, trying to get a reaction out of you, trying to get you to blow up in anger. But if you are long-suffering,\u00a0macrothumia<\/em>, you show a quality of self-restraint. It is when you do not hastily retaliate. You are self-controlled when provoked. You have the power to take revenge, but you do not. You have a spirit which refuses to retaliate.<\/p>\nWe have all known people who blow up in anger at the least little thing. That is someone who has a short fuse. Here Paul calls us to have long fuses \u2013 the ability to bear insult and injury without bitterness and complaint.<\/p>\n
God\u2019s patience toward us is the perfect example. Time after time we sin. Repeatedly we say, \u201cI\u2019m sorry God. Never again will I do that.\u201d But a day later, a week later, a month later, we\u2019re back at it. But God, in His incredible patience works with us, and time after time forgives us. That is true long-suffering.<\/p>\n
Fourth, we are called to bear with one another.<\/p>\n
4. Bear with one another<\/h2>\n To bear with one another means to \u201cput up with one another\u2019s short comings.\u201d That kind of has negative connotations, but Paul meant it in a positive way because we are to bear with one another in love. It is like when you parents put up with your children\u2019s short comings because you love them. You know they are maturing. You know they are learning. And so you bear with them in love.<\/p>\n
And that\u2019s the fifth attitude. We are to bear with one another in love.<\/em><\/p>\n5. In Love<\/h2>\n This love, as I\u2019m sure you can already guess, is\u00a0agape<\/em>\u00a0love. This is unconditional, no-strings attached, unending, eternal love. It is the kind of love Paul describes in more detail in 1 Corinthians 13. It is the kind of love God has for us. It is the kind of love that put Christ on the cross for us, even though we were sinners.<\/p>\nIf we love someone with agape love, it means that nothing he or she can do will make us seek anything but the highest good for them. Though they insult us and injure us, we will never feel anything but kindness toward them. It is the ability to love the unlovable, to love those who hate you and to love those who don\u2019t want your love.<\/p>\n
It is obvious that this kind of love is not an emotional love. It is a love bound to the will. It is the love that loves a person when all your emotions scream out to hate them and retaliate against them for what they have done to you. It is the kind of love that keeps marriages going when the honeymoon is over. It is the kind of love that allows Christians to walk in unity. Agape love, the fifth attitude.<\/p>\n
Sixth, in Ephesians 4:3, we are endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit.<\/p>\n
6. Unity of the Spirit<\/h2>\n Endeavoring<\/em>\u00a0(\u201cmake every effort\u201d or \u201cbe diligent\u201d in some of translations) means eagerly, earnestly and diligently<\/em>. It is a word that a trainer of gladiators in Rome might have used when he sent one of his men to fight to the death in the coliseum: \u201cMake every effort to stay alive today!\u201d<\/p>\nAnd do you think that gladiator made every effort? You bet he did! If he let down even a little bit, it could mean the loss of his life. It is the same for the Christian. But we are not endeavoring to keep ourselves alive. We are endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit.<\/p>\n
Is interesting what Paul is not saying here. There is a lot of emphasis today both in the world, and in the church, on making unity. But Paul here is not calling us to make unity<\/em> with one another. He is telling us to keep what we already have in Christ! Unity does not come from us, it is given to us by God when we become Christians, and it is simply our task to maintain it in the Spirit.<\/p>\nThe phrase\u00a0unity of the Spirit<\/em>\u00a0is just a way of saying that we are all one in the Spirit. We all, as Christians, have the same Spirit. The Holy Spirit indwells us when we become Christians. So when we are in disunity, it is like we are trying to divide God. But God cannot be divided, so disunity is contrary to the Spirit living within us. So the six attitudes so far are lowliness, gentleness, long-suffering, bearing with one another, in love, and endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit.<\/p>\nThe seventh and final attitude is the last phrase in Ephesians 4:3: The bond of peace.<\/p>\n
7. Bond of Peace<\/h2>\n Peace with others begins with peace with God. If you are not at peace with God, there is no way you can be at peace with others. It is only when the peace of God rules in our hearts that we can build unity with one another (Col 3:15; Jas 3:13-4:10).<\/p>\n
So those are the seven attitudes to do a heart-check up on any time you find yourself in conflict. The first step is to check your own heart. These seven attitudes are much easier said than done. If you have ever been in a conflict with someone, you know how hard it is to maintain an attitude of lowliness, gentleness, long-suffering and love, unity and peace. But, if you find these difficult when you are embroiled in a conflict, don\u2019t forget what you have in Christ from Ephesians 1-3.<\/p>\n
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God never asks you to do something without first telling what He has done for you. God never asks you to give something without first telling what He has given to you.<\/p>\n
What if I asked you to donate $100,000 to your favorite charity next week? What would you think? You would think, \u201cThere\u2019s NO WAY! I don\u2019t have that kind of money!\u201d But what if I first informed you that Elon Musk had just decided to deposit $1 million into your bank account with the minor stipulation that you give 10% of it to your local charity? Then the $100,000 is no big deal, right? You get to keep $900,000.<\/p>\n
What made the difference? Both times you were asked to give the same amount of money, but in one situation, you said, \u201cNO WAY!\u201d and in the other, you said, \u201cNo big deal.\u201d The difference was that in the second situation, I told you what you already had, and so giving a small portion of it was no big deal.<\/p>\n
The same exact thing is going on here in Ephesians 4. Paul has just asked us to do something very difficult. He has said that when you find yourself in a conflict, check your own attitude first. And if this seems hard to do, remember what you have in Ephesians 1-3. You have the power of God to do what you otherwise could not do. On your own, you might not be able to be humble and gentle and longsuffering toward that person. On your own, you might not be able to love that person and to be at peace with him or her. But with the power of the Holy Spirit within you, you can do what would be impossible otherwise.<\/p>\n
Remember, Paul was writing to a very diverse church in Ephesus. It was made up of Jewish and Gentile believers who could not get along no matter how hard they tried. In Ephesians 2, Paul called them to be a peace with each other. Now he tells them the first way how. He tells them it begins with their own attitudes. He lists seven of them here.<\/p>\n
And you know, although Paul is writing to Jewish and Gentile Christians in the 1st Century AD in Ephesus, we can apply this same principle to all of our present day relationships. Do you have any damaged relationships at home with your spouse or your kids? Do you have any conflicts at work? How are you getting along with your neighbors? Do you dread those calls from your mother in law?<\/p>\n
If so, step number 1 is to focus on your own attitude. If we are going to walk toward unity, it doesn’t begin with fixing everyone else. No, it begins in our own hearts with changing out own attitudes. We will continue next time in Ephesians 4:4 with learning more about how to develop unity in our lives, in our communities, and in this world.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Everyone wants unity, but nobody really knows how to achieve it.<\/p>\n
Most people today seem to think that unity requires conformity. We think that unity is achieved when everybody thinks the same way, talks the same way, dresses the same way, and has the same opinions. Where differences occur, division results, and unity dies. And some people seek to achieve unity by silencing and cancelling those who have different opinions.<\/p>\n
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