How My Wife Saved Me

Today is my 15th Wedding Anniversary!

I can confidently say that my life is NOT AT ALL where I thought it would be by the time Wendy and I had been married for fifteen years, but at the same time, our marriage is better than it has ever been, and in many ways, our lives are better than we ever expected.

If you have been following this blog for more than a few years, then you know that about five years ago we went through some really tough times.

Recently a different author asked me to write a bit about that time for a book that will get published later this year, and as I was thinking through the questions that I was asked to address, I came to the realization that in many ways, my wife Wendy saved me from myself and from the storms of life during that time.

We fought a lot, and almost got divorced, but her unwavering belief in God, and her constant respect for me helped get me through.

Wendy was the voice and presence of God to me.

Most of the problems we faced were of my own making. I am convinced that one of the reasons God created marriage is so that we can root out selfishness and pride in our lives. I am pretty selfish and proud, and Wendy has been extremely patient and gracious and forgiving over the years. Then especially during those rough years, she was my saving grace.

Together we faced a lot of difficult situations and trying times, but she went through this entire transition with me, and though I hurt her deeply in the process, she stayed with me and remained my lifeline to hope, love, and reality. She showed me, more than anyone or anything else, that there might still be a future that had me in it.

For that, and for so many other reasons, I love her dearly.

And besides all of this, she is shockingly beautiful! And so are my three girls. I am surrounded by beauty!

Thank you, Wendy, for being my wife. Thank you for being in my life. Thank you all you have done and said over the past 15 years. I love you! I look forward to the next 15, 30, 45, or more!