In my first pastorate, after over three years of ministry, the church board told me that due to budget constraints, they no longer had the funds to pay my salary.
This was a turning point in my life. I loved the church. I loved the people. I loved the area. But I also wanted to provide for my wife and our newborn daughter. I had a strong urge to remain the pastor of the church, and find a “secular” job in the community. I rejected the urge, and took another pastorate in another town.
Looking back, I regret that decision. I wish I had stayed. I wish I had pastored without pay.
I would have learned so much working in the community, among the people I wanted to love and serve. I would have lost my fear of losing the big tither in church. I would have gained freedom to teach the Scriptures clearly. I would have gained the liberty to lead the people into the community. I don’t know what would have happened, but looking back now, it is what I wish I had done.
All Roads Lead to God’s Will
But God eventually takes us all down the road He wants anyway. After a year and a half in my second pastorate, I returned to seminary. Why? I’ll admit it: I wanted to get a Master of Theology so that I could be better qualified to land a pastorate at a larger church.
Since I chased money by leaving my first church, I now decided I needed more education so I could chase money into a bigger and better church. But God had other plans. While I was in seminary, I began to think about some of the issues and ideas I am writing about on this blog. I realized I could not go back to the pastorate. At least, not to a paid pastorate.
What’s a Pastor to Do When He Can No Longer Pastor?
I started looking for a way to earn a living so that I would not have to depend on the church for my salary. I tried applying for numerous positions in businesses, but without any experience or education in business or management, no place was willing to hire me. After submitting several hundred résumés, and only getting one interview, I finally landed a job as a carpet cleaner.
It was a good experience for me, but one of the hardest jobs of my life. I worked about eighty hours per week, and got paid $10 per hour. The job was physically exhausting. I was injured on numerous occasions, damaged the tendons of my right hand, and developed a hernia. I finally had to quit. My body could not take it any longer.
I almost went back into the pastorate, because it seemed to be the only thing I was qualified for and which would provide an income. But through a long series of events, I ended up becoming a chaplain in a prison. It is a job that was still within my “field” but which was not officially “pastoral ministry” in a church.
We are now being the church in ways we never before thought possible, and we are beginning to learn that following Jesus will never look like we thought it would.
Is Jesus Leading you Away from the Pastorate?
If you are a pastor, and decide to follow some of the suggestions and ideas in the following blog posts, your story may look similar to mine…or it may look very different. But either way, whether it is over the course of a few days, a few weeks, or as in my case, a few years, God may be moving in your life to have you resign from pastoral ministry so you can more fully engage in pastoral ministry.
In the next several blog posts, I will explain why and how you can do this.
B Crump says
I’ve witnessed several close friends travel the same exact road that you describe here. One is now trying to get into a Phd program, one owns and operates a coffee kiosk in a mall, one sells insurance, one runs a landscaping company…all of them are still paying student loans for seminary. All of them feel lost. All of them feel as if they’ve failed at some level. All of them bear some sort of resentment toward God but struggle with how to deal with it.
Jeremy Myers says
I am right there with them. I may sound chipper on my blog a lot, but I’m putting up a good mask. We need to start a Pastor’s Anonymous group or something…
Your friends, do they even attend a church any more?
B Crump says
The dude going into the Phd program does because he’s still thinking that one more sheepskin will make people take him more seriously and then they’ll follow him better…ugh.
The rest NO.
Jeremy Myers says
I’m considering the PhD program for the same reasons. Ha!
Actually, I am thinking of transitioning from chaplaincy to teaching. But not sure I can stomach that either….
Maybe I’ll just sell everything, buy a motorcycle and ride across America….
B Crump says
you don’t even have to ride the bike. just owning it is all the testosterone boost most men can handle.
Oh, and quit fantasizing about leaving your family. Very uncool, dude…
Jeremy Myers says
Who said leaving them? Wendy will ride on the back, and we’ll stuff the kids into saddle bags….somehow.
I did have a bike once. A friend and I rode down the Pacific Coast Highway. It was a trip I will never forget.
B Crump says
Seriously, though…teaching doesn’t change lives. It can start one on the path, but it’s only the first ingredient. Life Coach…that’s the title we should all aspire to. We need more servants – not more scholars.
Jeremy Myers says
Yeah, I am just looking for alternative ways to pay the bills… right now my options are:
1. Pastor
2. Chaplain
3. Teach in Bible College
4. Male stripper
Arthur Sido says
This is excellent. I think a lot of men run into this issue, what do I do if I am not a pastor? Fear of not being able to care for their families leads to men staying in place.
Jeremy Myers says
Yes, the big question, and the big fear, is “How can I support my family if I’m not a pastor?”
I hope to attempt an answer to that question a bit later…
Sam says
I’ve had many pastor friends, most of whom were not my pastor and most of whom did not live where I lived. They could tell me what they could not tell their congregation or anyone where they lived.
Are you going to discuss the issue of where the role of “pastor as we know it” originated? Is it a legitimate office? What is the Scriptural perspective? Did the early church have pastors (as we know them)? If not, why do we?
Jeremy Myers says
Sam. No, I don’t think I am going to address that subject. It is covered fairly well in Pagan Christianity? by Frank Viola.
I am, however, going to deal with the popular passages which are used to defend pastoral salaries.
Sam says
I assume you pretty much agree with Frank, as I do. I don’t want to diss pastors. Lots of them are putting in long hours for little pay and are doing a great job. However, I don’t think that the office of pastor as we now see it is found in Scripture or in the first three centuries of Christianity.
That doesn’t mean we should throw out all pastors. Lots of these folks (pastors) have figured out that they’ve been hired to provide service for a group of people. But, BUT they went to college and seminary and have degrees. They’ve learned preaching and teaching theology, but what do they do if they stop getting the paycheck from the church? Lots of them are supporting a family with that check?
Jeremy Myers says
Sam,
As the series progresses, I will be discussing some of the options that are available to pastors who want to provide for their families, but not get paid to pastor.
For many years, I have have toyed with the idea of starting some sort of website/online community which could connect job offers with pastors who want to leave pastoral ministry. I think there are lots of businesses out there who would like to plug in to some of the skills that pastors have.
Margaret Gibbons on Facebook says
What r u complaining about, JESUS never got paid 4 his ministry, he got killed 4 it, I do not beleive that man should be ordaining pastors, only GOD can.
Jeremy Myers on Facebook says
Margaret. Did you read the entire post? I’m not complaining at all.