This guest post is by an anonymous person. Even though he is not ashamed of whom he is, he has chosen to remain anonymous to avoid embarrassing family members who are still evolving on these issues. This post was condensed from interviews with our anonymous poster.
This is Part 3 of 4 Blog Posts from this person. Please also read Part 1: I Am Queer, Part 2: Don’t Hate Me for Being Queer, and Part 4: An Open Letter to Christians from a Queer.
Whether you agree or disagree with what he says, please be gracious in your comments below.
Most of us are not stupid. We can spend a few hours reading the New Testament Gospels and get a pretty good idea what Jesus is like. It’s also pretty clear that people who call themselves Christians (I read somewhere that means little Christs) should look and act like Jesus.
Why don’t Christians look more like Jesus? They cut me off on the freeway with Jesus stickers and church stickers all over their car and give me the finger for being in their way. My sister decided to try going to church and got screamed at because they thought her shorts were too short.
Some guy came into my business, cursed me out and got very ugly because he said an employee of the business had given him incorrect information on a previous day. Guess who was sitting on the platform the next Sunday when I tried out a new church? He was introduced as the assistant pastor. Guess who never went back to that church?
Who is the Freak?
Many of my friends think that is how most Christians behave. But when I tell them that I am a Christian, they think I am a freak. Isn’t that interesting? Because I am queer, Christians think I am a freak. But because I am a Christian, my LGBT friends think I am a freak.
My friends think Christians are (I’m trying to think of nicer versions of the words they really say)… not nice, nothing like Jesus. They think I’m deluded, because, although I claim to be a Christian, I like LGBT people. They are my friends. I’m nice to them. My LGBT friends have never met a Christian who was nice to them before. Therefore, in their minds, I can’t possibly be a Christian. Christians have never been nice to them.
When I march with my friends, Christians scream at us and tell us we are going to hell. When we try to attend church, Christians (mis)quote Bible verses to us, don’t accept us, hope we’ll stay away. When Christian coworkers learn of our sexual orientation, they try to get us fired from our jobs, spread lies about us, and usually hate us.
We’ve been threatened, hit, thrown out of our homes and families, and told “You’re dead to me.”
Such behavior does not look like Jesus to me.
Am I Queer or am I Christian?
People like to ask, “Can a queer be a Christian?” My friends and I wonder why many Christians are so queer. They claim to follow Jesus, but look nothing like Him? Isn’t that odd? Isn’t that… queer?
My friends and I have discussed all of this. Their conclusion is that either this “Jesus thing” is a crock or these people who bear his name aren’t Christians. We’ve all read about Jesus in the Bible, and these “Christian” people don’t look anything like him. Maybe he was a one-of-a-kind and it’s not possible to be anything like him.
My conclusion: Most people who call themselves Christians are chasing religion instead of following Jesus.
I believe that Jesus is real. I believe it truly is possible to follow him. It is possible to look and act like him.
My friends are LGBT. I am Q. That stands for Queer. I love Jesus and I like who I am. I am who I was created to be. I am not a mistake. My friends are not mistakes. We are created in the image of God.
Jesus had nothing to say about LGBTQ. He had lots to say about divorce. How many Christians do I know who are divorced? – Probably about half of them. I don’t treat them like crap. Where did Jesus tell me to do that? – He didn’t. He told me to love them. So I do.
Do you have questions for me? Do you want to hear more of my story? There will be one more post this week in which I will share more about me, and if there is enough interest, we can do a Q&A in a future post.
Last night I reread the writing we sent Jeremy for today and tomorrow’s posts. In the process of writing and rewriting, one paragraph was accidentally excluded.
These posts are asking all Christians to try to look and act like Jesus, but are especially asking that of Christians who behave like some of the Christians described here. That would include the ones who come into my business and curse me out, and especially those who direct bad behavior toward LGBTQs, such as screaming at us, trying to get us fired from our jobs (you can be fired in over thirty states just for being gay), threatening us, hitting us, throwing us out of our homes and the other behaviors mentioned in these posts.
I didn’t specifically mention the Christian parents who throw their own children out their homes when they discover they are LGBTQ. That is my crazy spot. How can a Christian parent throw their very own child to the wolves because they’re gay? It happens to thousands of Christian teens every year. Our country has over a hundred thousand homeless teens, many of whom were thrown out of their homes by their families. Some of those families are Christian.
Some LGBTQs think all Christians behave like that. I know that many do not. Some do, however,
and those are the people I’m really speaking to.
Arthur Sido says
The “well you don’t care about divorce so why do you
care about homosexuality” argument is a tired and silly argument. Because
we wrongly tolerate one type of sin we should therefore tolerate all other
forms of sin? The church is entirely too lax on the issue of divorce, this is
true, but the response to that failure should to repent and redouble our
efforts, not to just shrug at other sins.
Granted Jesus never spoke out specifically about
homosexuality but He didn’t really need to given His audience. It was pretty
common knowledge from the Old Testament that homosexual behavior was inherently
disordered and sinful. Jesus didn’t speak out against bestiality either but
that doesn’t mean that it was OK. As the church started to spread outside of
the areas where Jesus ministered, the issue of sexual immorality started to
become more of a problem for the church.
The church should welcome those who struggle with this
particular sin and tell them of Jesus, encouraging them to repent of their sins
and follow Christ. That means turning away from those sins of the past, not bringing
them with you and embracing them. This is the same with any sin. If you changed
the title of this post from “Queer Christians” to “Murdering
Christians” or “Adulterous Christians” or “Stealing
Christians”, would the response be the same? Some segments of the church
have admittedly been unloving and even cruel to those who engage in homosexual
behavior. We should repent where warranted and instead of hate present the
forgiveness of sin that comes with repentance to any and all, the homosexual,
the thief, the liar, the murderer. We do those who struggle with this lifestyle
no favors by accepting their sins.
If we are to look and act like Jesus we should never fail to
love anyone nor should we ever fail to call sinners to repent, to “go and
sin no more”.
The divorce thing was my attempt to say that many of those who are all over LGBTQs for what they think the Bible says about homosexuality appear to me to be blind to all the things they’re doing that the Bible and Jesus condemn. Whatever behaviors we think the Bible calls sin does not mean focusing on one group of people and what we suppose their sin to be and ignoring our own sins.
Jim Moynihan says
You say that “Most people who call themselves Christians are chasing religion instead of following Jesus.” How can you possibly know. It sounds like a very judgmental statement based upon your own personal experience. These kinds of accusations are not helpful … unless, of course, you have some way of determining their validity.
You’re right. That sentence was poorly written. To express what I’m trying to say it should say something like “Most of these people I’ve mentioned who call themselves Christians”, referring to Christians who curse businessmen, direct unloving behavior toward LGBTQs and the other bad behaviors I mention. I’m not saying they’re not Christians. In my opinion, they are Christians who are chasing religion instead of following Jesus. That is my opinion, and may not be correct, but I have a tough time trying to understand them.
Neil Braithwaite says
I’ll take my comment on the previous post of this anonymous “queer” person to another level. And it will be my last comment on this series of posts.
Personal philosophical arguments, including specious anecdotal evidence, leads me to believe this “anonymous” person has an agenda. And the goal of that agenda is to make straight Christians feel guilty for calling sexual deviant behavior what scripture clearly calls it – SIN. And to get them to accept the gay lifestyle as some sort of God ordained behavior, implying that maybe even Jesus was OK with queers and accepted their sexual behavior without regard to condemnation or judgement.
Because this person refuses to reply to any Biblical passages involving sexual behavior, it is evident he doesn’t accept the Bible’s teachings in their entirety. He obviously believes only what is expedient to his own personal views regarding his sexual behavior.
I have met many people like this person in my life and they all try their best to get me to accept their sexual behavior as something they were “born” with. And the gay community makes it almost impossible for anyone who believes they are gay to accept what scripture says about their sexual behavior. If a gay Christian accepts what scripture says about that behavior, that it is a sin, and then truly tries to repent, they will be vilified and called a hater by the gay community – and certainly no longer accepted in the gay community. And acceptance is what this person ultimately wants from both the gay community and the Christian community.
John 3:16 needs to be taken in context. Because Jesus didn’t stop at verse 16. Make note of some of the words Jesus uses in this passage after verse 16: judgement, darkness, evil deeds, fear, exposed, truth, and light.
16 “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life. 17 For God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world might be saved through Him. 18 He who believes in Him is not judged; he who does not believe has been judged already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. 19 This is the judgment, that the Light has come into the world, and men loved the darkness rather than the Light, for their deeds were evil. 20 For everyone who does evil hates the Light, and does not come to the Light for fear that his deeds will be exposed. 21 But he who practices the truth comes to the Light, so that his deeds may be manifested as having been wrought in God.”
I don’t see loving another person as a “sexual sin”. When you love somebody and commit yourselves to them, it isn’t about sex it’s about love. Stop focusing on the sexual aspect and focus on two people becoming one, as written in Ephesians. Love is such a spiritual action that cannot be truly understood in our human form and our spirits have no gender, so why should our earthly gender matter
Maybe I’m missing something but the writer says that he is married and committed and faithful to his wife and has not engaged in sex outside his marriage. He writes of his love for Jesus, about knowing him and living to become like him. He trusts Jesus. And he believes that he should actually stand with these others on the outside and show them Jesus as he understands him. I’d think you would support him, not find ways to pound on him simply because he believes that he is not a mistake, that God can use him too. Even if you think he is wrong in that belief, isn’t there room in your hearts for him, and the hope that the God you both claim can change him?
Thank you. Obviously you have read what I wrote. Does it come as a surprise to you that many of my LGBTQ friends tell me I am the only Christian they know? My friend who helped me tell my story here is also a Christian and has been told the same thing by some of his LGBTQ friends. We both stand with our LGBTQ friends and love them. Jeremy has my permission to give you my e-mail if you want to continue the discussion. I will tell no one your name.
Hey man, you didn’t need any defending, you’re doing good. . . just responding to the comments. Actually it does surprise me. I’ve known lots of Christians, and they’re good people for the most part. Just know few Christians to walk with. Get that it’s uncomfortable, it’s uncomfortable for me too, but find it’s good too. Looking forward to your last post. . . glad to email you after.
I also know Christians who are good people I know even more Christians who kind of go crazy when anything about GAY comes up. I know some of the reasons for the way they act, but a lot of it is irrational in my opinion. We learned the hard way that we can’t invite most Christians to a dinner party with any LGBTQ person present. Maybe our experiences and the experiences of other LGBTQs we know has something to do with which churches we attended, past tense.
I can understand it when others dislike something I’ve said or done, can deal with that, but those who hate me just because of who I am I don’t get. It seems like a blindness to things, and irrational and not helpful. You should continue to invite Christians to the meal, just get a really big table 🙂
Our table seats at least 24. Disliking someone for who they are is reprehensible behavior for anyone. As followers of Jesus I think it important to love people even when we dislike what they do or have done. Admittedly, some things are difficult to overlook, such as harming a child. However, there are systems in place for dealing with those behaviors. That’s not my job. As a child of God it is part of my spiritual DNA to love others, even if I dislike their behavior.
Our table seats 24. Disliking someone for who they are is reprehensible behavior for anyone. As followers of Jesus I think it important to love people even when we dislike what they do or have done. Admittedly, some things are difficult to ignore, such as harming a child. However, there are systems in place for dealing with those behaviors. That’s not my job. As a child of God it is part of my spiritual DNA to love others, even if I dislike the behavior. If you want to talk further, either Jeremy or Brandon can give you my contact info.
Clive Clifton says
I’m pleased to read a comment that is not condemning or confrontational. I have known young men over the years who have struggled with thoughts about other guys which the are uncomfortable with, knowing them to be unnatural. We all know what is loving, as loving always builds up, is not self seaking (1Corinthians ch 13) .
Love never condemns (Luke 6 v 37) from verse 27 to 38, Jesus always encouraged, He was also tempted like us. Anything we question about ourselves He also faced, if we feel shocked by such a revelation, that Jesus may have had what we call impure thoughts, we need to get iver it, the important thing was He djd not allow such thoughts to dominate His life. Many of us, dare I say all of us continually struggle with temptation, yielding to it is the sin, when the snake rears it’s head, flee, do not allow it to grow and flourish. God is our strength and our shield, lean on Him and not on your own understanding.
Life in so many ways is a test, but we are all potentially overcomers, do we fall, Yes, are we condemned, No, we have been saved to the uttermost and forgiven daily 70 X 7, do we then deliberately continue to yield to temptation, No, Jesus offered us a way out, His blood, let’s use it nit waste it. I love you no name, why? Because He ckmmands md to do so, and what a pleasure that is for both of us. Just because we feel rubbish when we get thought’s we don’t care for, does not mean we are bad people, it’s becahse we are part of a fallen world. Rejoice and be glad as we have a Saviour who is at our right hand, ready to give what we need. Ask and it shall be given. Your brither in Christ, Clive Clifton X X
Thanks Clive your words are water for thirst. Some one told me once that we should help each other up so that we can help the person behind us. I get that people who tell me verses do it because they believe the truth of them, and truth matters, but when I read some of the posts, they just seem to want to prove a point rather than provide hope. I know they are quoting the words of Jesus, but the Jesus they quote is just book Jesus. . . so much want living Jesus. Truth is supposed to be like a rock you can stand on, not boulders rolled down to knock you off the path. I’m not expecting anyone to hold my hand along the way, but sure is better when others point the way rather than pound.
Clive Clifton says
Brother, without labouring the point, we are encouraged at our Church to consider ourselves as Saints (because of the redeming act of Jesus blood) and not to see ourselves as sinners but as Saints that sometimes sin. Therefore you and me have no authority to call ourselves names that are not befitting saints, and as another contributer said, “stop calling yourself queer” as it,s the act that can define us, even so, only when we are carrying it out.
If we call anyone hurtful names, long and often we start to believe the lies. I have had to encourage so many young men who have been verbally abused, to believe the truth about themselves and to stamp on the lies from parents and so called friends, they are now gloriously free and living their lives to the full.
So, no name, put aside the lies about yourself and look at yourself in a full length mirror and speak truth, the truth is what is good and wholesome about your life, any kindness, gentleness, tenderheartedness, mercy, humility, patience and encouragement of others, this is the clothing your wear that people see. If you dare to ask people how they see you and what is their opinion of you, receive it with joy and believe it. Colossians 3 v12 to 17, and be thankful.
Now I require you receive a new name as did Jacob who became Israel. I name you Beautiful. Will you receive this new name? Jesus had many names as well as those in Isaiah 9 v 6 Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace, ruling with Fairness and Justice forever.
Will you Beautiful one, feed the poor, bind up the wounds of the afflicted and heal the broken hearted, care for orphans and widows. For what you did for the least of these you did for Me. Matthew 25 v 40.
Do you, can you love all these? Then I can and do love you, therefore, you can and must love yourself. Eventually the old will go as the new comes. The new will wash away all sorrow, self lothing and tears making you a new creation, no more in self condemnation, on this Rock, Jesus, this new foundation you will stand. 2 Corinthians 5 v 17. Revelation 21 v 4. Romans 8 v 1. John 8 v 10 to 11.
Jesus does not accuse, who therefore who are we to accuse anyone?.
Love came down and rescued me, and a few other trillion. Stand up and look up. Love Clive X X X
Clive, appreciate your kind and positive words, really do. Have found that looking in a mirror is the last place to find hope. Looking at myself I find to be one of the bad side effects of living under condemnation from others and myself. . . like living in a whirlpool. Have found it so much better to look out and forward. Can see others and other things when looking out, and the hope is that the road ahead leads to something better. Along the way there’s nothing better than when you can help and stand with those who have been beaten down by this world and who need a little encouragement on their way. . . we both come out better,or least we have a better shot at it. At least find it true when I do it – sometimes get lost along the way myself. Life may get hard sometimes but it’s good.
Whether critical things others say about me are true or not, I don’t know, guess for them it’s true. But like to think they are answering the wrong question. The hope that Christians put out is that Jesus was the real deal, and from his stories the way he was seems to be the best way to be fully human and fully alive. Find that to be true with those who are under. In churches I’ve been to, find that people talk about him in their services and they seem happy and they’re happy if you fit in with them but somehow it all seems unreal or maybe not unreal, it just seems if Jesus was there things would be different. Not being critical, maybe they’re looking for the real Jesus but can’t admit it since they’re supposed to have found him already. Having said that, have come across Christians, some recently, who are the real deal.
Thanks Clive for the encouragement. . . coming from a Christian it helps to lift the weight.
Clive Clifton says
Um, continuing with this without meeting up for a proper conversation is becoming difficult. However, lets see how it goes, hopefully without misunderstanding each other.
I asked you to look in the mirror so you would ask God to reveal the good in you, whatsoever is wholesome and true. I believe you need to focus on those things. Also ask a good friend to tell you your good points and focus on them. It is so important for anyone who has been abused in any way, is to leave all the lies that have been said over you. When temptation comes to turn back, ask Holy Spirit to give you the strength to overcome and you will succeed. Will it be easy? No, but the eventual reward is better than any sex the world can come up with.
Come unto me all who are heavy laden and I will refresh you.
A dear friend of mine has had a long term same sex relationship, she loved it yet knew deep down it was unhealthy for her in body, mind and especially in spirit. Over several weeks she asked God to release her from these feelings. With much shouting and crying He did. She has now got a long term boyfriend who loves her and turns her on in every way.
The only person that can heal us is God, He can and will, our part is to want it. Your brother in Christ, Clive X
Hey Clive, know you mean well but you’ve made a whole lot of assumptions about me. Don’t think I misunderstood your advice to see good in myself but that’s not helpful to me in moving forward. It’s harder but better to deal with how things are and what I am. . . believing I’m something I’m not is trouble, it gives false hope that makes things worse. Plus the whole exercise feels like I’m falling. Find that the good in me shows itself in how I treat others and that’s something real. If I can do good to others, it’s enough.
I second NoName. Thank you for your loving spirit Clive.
Neil, you must be reading something other than these posts, comments and responses. You’re inadvertently making the point many of my LGBTQ friends make, which is that many Christians do not listen to what they say and imagine things that they do not say. You may have an agenda, but don’t assume the rest of us do.
I have explained repeatedly that these posts are not about behavior. I explained there is no such thing as the “gay lifestyle”. I am not writing any of this to argue with anyone about philosophy, Scripture or anything else, nor will I conjecture as to why this topic agitates you so much. I am trying to be kind and gracious go you, and am not asking you to accept anything.
It’s almost hard to believe the unethical treatment that’s being reported in this article from fellow “Christians.” I am a pastor who has grown up in church my whole life and I’ve never seen a homosexual be mistreated like this. I’m really sorry and disturbed to hear about it. I hope it’s an over-generalization towards Christians. I also want to say that my life has intersected with many homosexuals who I’ve befriended. They know that I love them and support them but I’ve also made my convictions clear that they must repent of homosexual practices. I’ve done the same with those who are living together outside of marriage, looking at pornography, or any other sexually immoral issue that the Bible addresses. You can’t follow Jesus while disobeying His will. His grace is sufficient to heal us all where we are weak. It would be unloving for Christians to not address sin that separates one from God when God has provided deliverance and healing in Jesus.
We have more stories. They’re too discouraging to retell. If you haven’t been on this end of things, you probably do not realize what a poor job most Christians do when they attempt to “address sin”. It does not come across as love.
Identity is a big issue especially as a Christian. Vaughan Roberts shares his experience in the Christian community openly dealing with same-sex attraction. The site this short video is on is a great resource for Christians experiencing same-sex attraction. http://www.livingout.org/stories/vaughan
Child of God says
I think that when a lot of people hear the words, queer, homosexual, gay, straight, drunkard, etc., they are thinking of the action that follows. We act on what we are. This is where the misunderstanding lies. When we believe, there is an action that follows. So when you call yourself queer, you are saying that you are that by your actions, but you say that you are queer, but not by your actions. Then I think you should no longer call yourself queer. Just like I no longer call myself a drunkard, because I no longer drink. Such “were” some of you. It no longer applies if it is not followed up by action. Like being straight, when you are a child you are just that a child, you are not gay, straight, etc. because you are not acting on any of those things. A straight person is not someone who thinks they are attracted only to the opposite sex, it is someone who acts on that by being in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex. So when scripture condemns homosexuality, it is condemning the action, and if you are not acting on it, you are not homosexual. Being a Christian is followed up by action, by their fruits you will know them. So we can judge those “alleged” Christians by their actions. Those who treat you badly are not who they say they are. You say you are Christian, and you show it by your action, you are kind when you address others questions, you do not attack, but answer to the best of your ability. When you are living by the Spirit, you act by the Spirit, when you live by the flesh, you act by the flesh. These are not my words, my wisdom comes from the Spirit of God. I cannot take credit, I give Him the glory & praise, for only He is Good!
So in conclusion I think you should no longer be calling yourself queer, because you are not one by your actions. You are a child of God! That is your new identity, the old is gone. Our new identity is in Christ. You have been born again! So, I believe queer is not who you are, as you state.
I thank you for your posts, and I am sorry that there are some who have treated you badly. I pray that you continue to follow Jesus, who has redeemed you. God Bless!
A Child of God
This goes back to the identity issue. I am a child of God, but I also believe I am queer, independent of the action. I know several people who adamantly claim to be straight, even though they have never been married or had a sexual relationship with anyone. I also know several people who identify as lesbians, gay and bisexual who have never had a relationship with anyone of either gender.
Thank you for your kind words. These posts are my feeble my feeble effort to ask Christians to treat LGBTQs with love.
I’ve had LGBTQ friends since I was a child. You are being very gracious in what you say IAQ, because I have seen firsthand how many of my LGBTQ friends have been treated by religious people who knew or suspected my friends were LGBTQ. It hasn’t been pretty.
Christians in general have done a bad job with interacting with LGBTQs. You are correct where you said that they need to learn how to engage in conversation with those with whom they disagree. “You are an abomination and are going to burn in hell” or “Your daddy ought to beat the s**t out of you” (I heard both said to my friends by Christians), among other similar remarks are prime examples of how not to engage.
We can do better, and some of us are. Whether we agree with how you live, that you love Obama as president, and think “Wicked” is the best play ever written, we can love you. I can not hear what angry, hateful people say, and you could probably say the same. We need to earn the right to be heard. That means getting to know you.
I know what you mean. I too do not hear what angry, hateful people say. I hear only the anger and hate. Getting to know me works a lot better.
Does it say anything to us that during Jesus’ ministry, not a single gay person approached him – that we know of or was recorded? It just seems to me you are in a struggle to define yourself and taking shots at a bunch of straw men.
God made us male/female. NOW, man has made us SEVEN?!
You are making unwarranted assumptions. I am not in a struggle to define myself. Undoubtedly gay people approached Jesus. After all, he would be the best one to know if they really were gay, wouldn’t he? If, as many believe, God directed the people who wrote the Gospels as to what they should write about, if God thought it all that important to tell all future generations what Jesus had to say on this topic, why did he not direct the writers of the Gospels to tell us what Jesus said? Of course, neither of us can prove anything based on the silence of the Gospels.
Today I posted on your blog . Let me know what you think. And by the way the 4 gospels are part of the old testmemt. We as Christ follows need to live in the new covenant. And if you are wondering about a gay lifestyle and how harmful it is go the Andrew Wommack’s web-site if you want the truth.
If heaven is your goal after this life I don’t want you to be deceived . That is true love for man kind isn’t it? We all struggle with issues, but if I was doing something that would cause me to miss heaven , well it is not worth it. Life is short eternal life is better.
I have read through most of this post on gay/ Christian . I can honestly say I hate no one. I am a follower of Christ and know when I take my last breath in this body I will go to Jesus. I don’t have a problem with people men or women doing what they feel like in this world. But I someone wants or has a desire to lay with the opposite sex it is just like any other sin. The problem people will find is when they want to be married . If you are a Christian and want to marry don’t you think you need to do it the way God made married from the beginning? His word don’t change with society. For too people to be married inGods eyes a man must enter a female and they become one flesh. If we can’t understand that act , sorry. Too males or too females can’t enter in this way . This is the marriage covenant God made from the beginning so to procreate and bring forth life. You can’t have it both ways. Just a thought why not have sex with you dog or any animal if we have a desire.
Jim Gordon says
I do not like to use the word christian any longer due to the negative views it brings. I like to say Jesus follower, and I like to follow his example of being loving, kind and accepting to all people. We are all created in the image of God and are accepted by him and loved by him. I want to do the same. It is so sad the way many in the church system treats those they disagree with. Thanks for a good article.
Jim Gordon says
Be yourself, accept yourself. Do not let anyone say you do not matter or make you feel like you need to be someone you are not.
You are made in the image of God. The bible says God saw all that he had made and it was good!
You are not a mistake. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. God created you and loves you just as you are.
Of course we all want to better ourselves in this life but as far as the real you, whether gay or straight, white or black, male or female we are unconditionally loved and accepted by God.
There are a good many of his followers out there that feel the same way. Ignore those who judge and condemn, they will only bring you down. Move on and seek out those who will love you with the unconditional love of God and accept you just as you are.
Nelson Banuchi says
“I am Q. That stands for Queer. I love Jesus and I like who I am. I am who I was created to be. I am not a mistake. My friends are not mistakes. We are created in the image of God.”
First of all, it would have been much better if this anonymous Q had posted referred to the Bible in support of his many assertions made in this “letter,” rather than his opinion of who and who are not Christians and whether or not homosexuality is a lifestyle acceptable to God in Christ.
Be that as it may, let me merely point out that God did not create Man queer (Genesis 1-2). What he did create was make and female, both created separately, yet together constituting the image of God in which they were created. A homosexual is does not portray the image of God.
Everywhere in the Bible where homosexuality is spoken of, it is spoken of negatively and condemned. Being a nice, morally good person, aside from being homosexual, does not support the notion that homosexuality is a divinely approved lifestyle, which seems to be the point the write of this “letter” is trying to make. If that were true, an adulterer can be nice to his wife and family and his adultery be divinely approved.
Lastly, it is the Bible that shows us what is and what is not a Christian. Although Christians may not be morally perfect human beings, they are judged not by what others say but by what the Bible claims is pleasing to God. And where one is not demonstrating the Biblical lifestyle, it is not unloving to correct them.
Actually, what is unloving is to ignore another’s sins like this person did when he saw that the person who cursed him was an assistant pastor of a Christian church he was trying out. By not doing so and, especially, by refusing to attend that church or, at least, pay it a few more visits to confirm that is not where God wanted him, only betrays that he may be holding a lingering bitterness for being wrongly treated and a self-righteousness that is under the impression he is a better Christian than that person.