This post is written by Sam Riviera, a frequent contributor to this blog.
The adults of the village filed into the community meeting house and found their usual seating locations, which identified their rank within the tribe. Everyone was dressed in accordance with the customary dress for such occasions.
Music began. The crowd swayed and chanted with the music. Everyone knew the music and the words. Containers of drink were passed from person to person and everyone drank a few sips.
An elder stood and spoke. Everyone respectfully listened. The tribal meeting concluded with more music.
Though this description sounds like something that only happens in a Native American ceremony or in an Indonesian jungle, the description above actually describes what happens in countless churches around the world every Sunday morning.
But is this wrong?
Our Tribal Urge
We all have a tribal urge. A tribe is group where one can belong and others are excluded; the place where one knows their place and exactly what is expected of them.
A tribe consists of people who will be there in one’s time of need; the people who will not allow one to die alone.
This all sounds fine, but why do we want to belong to a tribe? Are there advantages? Are there disadvantages? Can the tribal urge find fulfillment in Christ? Can it find fulfillment in the church?
Or does the tribal urge conflict with Jesus’ command to love our neighbors as ourselves?
The Russian thinker Peter Kropotkin, in his book Mutual Aid: A Factor of Evolution suggested that survival is the result of cooperation of people together against the environment. Each person benefits from the things others contribute and share. Can this best be accomplished within the tribe or within society at large?
Do we form tribes for the purpose of surviving in a harsh environment, or as an attempt to group with others similar to ourselves and to exclude all others? Is the tribe an effort to meet our own needs, to the exclusion of the needs of others?
All of these questions and considerations are relevant to those of us who follow Jesus and his teachings. Is it possible to really love our neighbors as Jesus commanded and at the same time withdraw into our Christian “tribe” where most of our neighbors are de facto excluded?
You Don’t Belong!
Consider the case of our neighbor who knew almost nothing about Christianity and who had never attended a church service of any kind. Her life was in turmoil and someone she slightly knew suggested she should try “going to church.”
She did not know that the church people considered tiny shorts and a halter-top inappropriate attire for attending church. She did not know that she was expected to arrive on time, and that she should not walk up to the front row to find a seat during announcements. She did not know that she should not sit on the floor next to the communion table during the prayer.
She didn’t know the music. She didn’t understand what to do when the communion trays were passed. (She immediately drank the juice and ate the bread, instead of waiting until everyone had been served and the pastor had read a Scripture, as was the custom in that church.) She didn’t understand the sermon about Pauline theology.
Almost everyone avoided her after the service, but whispered about her, which of course she overheard. (That was part of the idea for those who “stage whispered” about her clothes and everything else she did that clearly identified her as “not one of us”.)
She had never been to church before that time and never returned. When the turmoil in her life calmed down, she realized that she was extremely embarrassed by all of the missteps she had made when she went to church in an attempt to find help.
The ladies of the church were glad that the very attractive young woman in the very revealing attire never returned. Their husbands were safe, as was the tribe, complete with all the “rules” everyone was expected to know.
Follow Jesus or Preserve the Tribe?
Was this a case of the tribe working together as Christians to survive in a hostile, non Christian culture, or a case of excluding those who don’t fit in, those who don’t know and follow the rules?
The Spirit may draw people to himself, but do we often run them away when our tribal urge kicks in – our need to think alike, dress alike, act alike and even look alike? Are we more interested in loving others in Jesus name, or in defining and preserving our identity as the tribe?
We will consider some further issues with the tribe and the church tomorrow. Until then, what do you think about the church and our tribal urge? Where have you seen the tribe of the church keep at bay those who were seeking Jesus?
The church is so predictable. There is no spontaneity of the Holy Spirit. Every church we visit does the same boring schedule, come in, welcome, worship songs, announcements, welcoming guests (embarrasing them), sermonette then see ya next week. Ooops, I forgot the offering they never will.
Just as we discovered many years ago that lots of people do NOT like baked turkey, sweet potatoes, cranberries and pumpkin pie for Thanksgiving dinner, we’ve also discovered that lots of people do NOT like what you’ve described. Some endure it, others “drop out” and then there are those of us for whom church looks much, much different. We think it looks a lot more like Jesus.
Wow!!! I thought it was me until I read this blog. I stopped visiting church building’s I needed time to think, I said to a neighbor that the churches do not teach like Jesus did. I ride the bus, I find something to complement someone about, they smile by the end of the ride were having church joking, laughing that’s church to me calming down a crying child, helping someone at the cash register when they find out they don’t have enough money to pay. I visited a church that believed that women that polished there nails, wore earrings,make up were compared to the harlot of Babylon, I know I would not do anything to knowingly hurt God. I like to look my best, after feeling out of place I did not return.
Some churches ignore new visitors . Now I do volunteer work helping the homeless,at a church
when I am able in the beginning of the month I’m going to the square and love on the homeless on my own and help with something’s they need.that’s church to me.
Sam Riviera says
Norma, I think you’ve discovered the ways of Jesus. I’ve noticed that these are the “sermons” that people take note of and remember, because many find them so memorable and almost unique in our “Christian” culture. May we look like Jesus for we may be the only Jesus some may ever see. (Think of St. Teresa of Avila from the 16th century.)