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Jerks for Jesus

By Jeremy Myers
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Jerks for Jesus

When I was a pastor, I wish I’d had the courage to walk across the street.

Oh sure, I walked across it every day back and forth to the church parsonage. But a bit further down the road was an atheist who had never set foot in our church, and probably never would. I wish I had gone over there and asked him out for lunch. It’s one of the great regrets of my years as a pastor. I thought about it every week, but I never had the courage.

Jim and Caspar Go To ChurchRecently I read Jim and Casper Go to Church. Jim is a Christian who makes a regular habit of befriending atheists. Casper is an atheist. Together, they attend churches and then write about what they heard and experienced.

If you want to know what unbelievers think about you and your church, you should go ask them. But if you want to read about it instead (since it’s so much safer and easier), you can be like me and just read Jim and Casper’s book, and others like it (e.g., They Like Jesus but Not the Church by Dan Kimball).

Jerks for JesusJim has a ministry called Off the Map devoted to helping “Christians learn to communicate better with non-Christians, or as some of my more outspoken ‘lost’ friends prefer to put it, Off the Map helps Christians learn how to not be jerks” (p. xxii). It’s true. We can be real jerks. I’m sure it makes Jesus proud.

Anyway, here are a few quotes from Jim with comments by me:

Humanity is divided into two groups: (1) people who follow Jesus, and (2) everybody else. It doesn’t matter to me whether you call yourself a Christian, a Buddhist, a humanist, an agnostic, or an atheist. If you aren’t following Jesus, you’re in group two (p. xxiv).

I could be wrong, but I don’t think he means that there can be Buddhists, agnostics, and atheists who follow Jesus. Sure, some may claim to follow the teachings of Jesus, but they would have to reject some of them.

Just like many of us Christians do as well.

And that’s his point. Just because you call yourself a Christian doesn’t mean you are following Jesus. I wholeheartedly agree with that. He goes on to say that “some professed Christians are not actually following Jesus but are instead following religion” (p. xxv). So true. I’m one such person in many ways.

He goes on to say that authors of a generation ago (and even many today):

…Provided Christians a way to defend the faith-the expectation being that if we provide a biblical response to the arguments of atheists of doubters and essentially prove them wrong, they will be forced to admit the error of their ways and join us. (Short of that, we will at least experience the pleasure of intellectually humiliating them.) (p. xxxii).

I’ve been in “witnessing” encounters like this. The only results that I could discern were increased blood pressure, as evidenced by red faces and bulging neck veins. Jim says, “Ordinary Christians like me know that when you start defending the faith, you also start losing your friends” (p. xxxiii).

The solution, Jim says, is to actually make friends with non-Christians, and live out the teachings of Jesus among them:

Jesus didn’t just teach principles; he taught practices. He gave people something to do. He didn’t just teach them about forgiveness; he told them to forgive their debtors. He didn’t just talk about love as a concept; he told people to love their enemies. He didn’t just tell people to think about changing their behaviors; he told them to repent. Sure it’s challenging, but it doesn’t take a weekend seminary to understand what he means (p. xxxiii).

This is a great book. Get your own copy here: Jim and Casper Go to Church.

God is Uncategorized Bible & Theology Topics: atheists, Books I'm Reading, Discipleship, evangelism, follow Jesus

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Why My Best Friends are Atheists and Sinners

By Jeremy Myers
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Why My Best Friends are Atheists and Sinners

A critic paid me quite a compliment today when he accused me of befriending and conversing with atheists and people who use the “F-word.”

If only he knew the truth…

…but I’ve got nothing to hide, so it’s time for a full confession.

Guilty as Charged!

Wendy says that if I ever meet some prostitutes or strippers, I can invite them over for dinner. I have not met any yet (since I’m not going to the places they tend to hang out).

I gave a $50 Burger King card to a drunk on the street a month ago. If I had the time, I would have gone and eaten with him. I keep looking for him at his corner but haven’t seen him yet.

A while back we let an alleged murderer stay in our house for six weeks while he was on house-arrest. All of his friends and family members abandoned him when it looked like he was guilty, so we took him in. It was one of the best six weeks of my life.

One of our best friends is a swinging, pot-smoking atheist. He is one of the kindest and most generous people we know.

So not only am I trying to make friends with atheists, agnostics, and people who use rough language, I am also trying to befriend prostitutes, strippers, drunks, and murderers.

Why? Because in my experience, Jesus is more likely to be found among people we consider “sinners” than among people we consider “saints.”

Closer to Jesus

When I hang out with so-called “sinners,” I’ve never felt closer to Jesus.

Jesus, Friend of Sinners

If Jesus were walking the earth today, He would befriend and converse with these people too. Of course, the Pharisees and religious hypocrites would get upset at Him today, just as they did 2000 years ago: “Gasp! Jesus is eating with tax collectors and sinners! Doesn’t he know what they’ve done?” (Read Matt 9:11; 11:19; Mark 2:15-16).

Yes, He does know. That’s why He eats with them.

That’s why I eat with them too…. Not because I’m “holy like Jesus,” but because I’m one of those “sinners.” I hope that if Jesus were walking around today, He would come up to me and say, “Hey! I’m having a BBQ over at my place for sinners. Want to come?”

Definitely! Will there be beer?

God is Uncategorized Bible & Theology Topics: Discipleship, evangelism, gospel, prostitutes, sinners, Theology of Jesus

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Understanding the Unbeliever

By Jeremy Myers
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Understanding the Unbeliever

I am convinced that we cannot adequately reach out to this world with the Gospel of Jesus Christ unless we understand how the unbeliever thinks, what they value, and why they make the decisions they do. Therefore, we must be students of people and culture just as much as students of the Word.

Once we begin to understand some of this, it will change how we organize our churches, how we share the gospel, how we interact with our neighbors, how we do our jobs at work, what we do with our money, and a host of other things.

UnbelieverTo learn about this world we live in, there are a variety of things we can do, but every Christian must be doing something to learn about people we are trying to reach. Though the best way to do this is with developing personal relationships with people, one quick way to learn is through blogs and websites.

I have recently become aware of a blog that is written by people who were once Christians, but have now left it behind. They share their reasons for doing so, and what they think is wrong with Christianity. At times, their insights amaze me. At other times, I am brought to tears.

I am a bit hesitant to share this site, since I have a feeling that some who read my blog will want to go post comments on that blog which which will only bring greater damage to the name of Christ…

But I think that most who read this blog are genuinely interested in understanding how unbelievers (and former believers) view Christ and Christianity.

So here is the site: de-conversion.com. Please, if you go read this site and decide to comment, be gracious, kind, gentle, loving, and patient.

Are there any other blogs you are aware of which helps us understand the way unbelievers think? Let me know in the comments!

God is Uncategorized Bible & Theology Topics: atheists, Discipleship, evangelism, unbeliever

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Planting Sterile Churches

By Jeremy Myers
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Planting Sterile Churches

Sterile ChurchesI have previously written about sterile preaching. In this post, I want to direct you to a site I discovered today about church planting which has an excellent post on “Sterile Churches.”

What is a “Sterile Church”?

It is a church that doesn’t reproduce.

Here is an excerpt from the article that put into words what I have been thinking:

I want to show you the difference between what I call a “growth culture” in which we’ve all been trained and a “reproduction model.” Because I believe to plant a church is a different animal than to plant a church-planting church. In fact, I’m convinced that the skill sets we learned in ministry training will actually insure that things don’t reproduce.

In our growth culture we’ve learned to focus on individual conversions, while a reproduction model focuses on group conversions.

We’ve started on believer’s turf. But in order to reproduce, we must start on unbeliever’s turf. If we want group conversions of family members, co-workers, neighbors and friends, those people are not going to come to a stranger’s house or into the strange setting of a church. They will come to turf where they are always involved. In our culture we teach Scripture for information. With the reproductive model it is taught for application, so that people are watching the power of God.

We’ve begun by finding Christians. But if you want a really powerful church start, find people of peace. Bar the Christians; don’t let them in. They mess things up in the early stages.

We’ve begun in facilities. This takes money and expertise, which are not readily available. If you begin in homes or front porches or yards or parks, there are always more of them.

We’ve tended to start with celebration in a large group. For reproduction you start with a small group. Very few people actually have the ability and gifts to do a large group well. It takes more expertise, more preparation, more everything. A lot of people can facilitate small groups. They were already doing it in their own natural network before they were saved.

We build programs and buildings. To reproduce, you build leaders.

Leadership is also different. Traditionally we import professional clergy. But what we need for reproduction is to have indigenous and convert-emerging clergy. Where are the future pastors for this setting? They are in the streets, they are beating their wives, they are ripping off their employers.

Also, the leader tends to see himself as the leader for all the participants. In a reproducing church, the leader is the equipper for the emerging leaders. That is how they see themselves, and that is how they stay focused. We are used to funding the church starter. But for churches that will start other churches, you need to have bi-vocational church starters. If we are going to see the cities reached, it is going to be with bi-vocational people. Otherwise, it takes too long to actually fund.

In my own experience, every time we got ready to plant a church we felt like we couldn’t afford to lose those people, their tithes and all that. But every time we did, we actually didn’t skip a beat. God supplied. I found the most powerful thing is that connection with another church who cares.

In fact, in every church that I see planting churches, I find that some of their own issues begin to dissolve. I don’t know what it is. They are giving themselves away. I am convinced you cannot out-give God. The more you give, the more God does.

Update: Sadly, the original post for this article no longer exists, so I cannot direct you to it. I don’t even remember who wrote it. If you know, please leave a comment below. Thanks!

God is Uncategorized Bible & Theology Topics: church growth, Church planting, Discipleship, evangelism

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10 Lessons Church Planters Can Learn from Will Smith

By Jeremy Myers
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10 Lessons Church Planters Can Learn from Will Smith

Will Smith - the Fresh Prince of Bel-Air(Note: This post on church planting principles from Will Smith is from 2007… back when I thought I was going into church planting. A lot has changed since then!)

I’ll admit it….

When I was in Jr. High, I listened to DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince. My friend and I listened to all of his tapes (CDs were just coming out).

His rap was just what Junior High white boys in Montana liked: It was smooth, funny, and just a teeny bit rebellious.

I remember that some of the more serious, hard-core rappers gave The Fresh Prince a hard time for his music. “It’s not rap,” they criticized. “Real rap has edge. It’s angry. It’s not rap unless there is some profanity.”

The Fresh Prince took it all in stride, and just kept selling tapes. Then he got a TV Show and a few movie roles. Now, 30 years later, he can look at all those who criticized him and, with country-western singer Toby Keith, say “How Do You Like Me Now?”

The Fresh Prince, now known as Will Smith, is one of the most sought-after actors in the movie industry, not only in Hollywood, but in the entire world. TIME Magazine recently did a brief article on him and how he got where he is.

As I read it, I was amazed at what church planters (and all pastors and leaders) can learn from Will Smith.

Will Smith

In the December 10, 2007 issue of TIME magazine, there was an article about Will Smith and how this transformation occurred.

What is Will Smith’s secret?

One thing: Intentionality.

Will Smith says his success is all according to plan.

TIME reports that “Because Smith has mastered the delicate art of appearing artless, few moviegoers realize that his is one of Hollywood’s most meticulously planned and executed careers.”

He hatched his plan at age 16 after his first girlfriend cheated on him because (in his mind) he wasn’t good enough. He decided that he was never not be good enough again. He made a plan to correct this, and never looked back. You can see the plan unfold as you watch the career of Will Smith.

10 Principles of Success

But what interests me are ten principles he operates by to execute that plan. Here they are as gleaned from the article:

1. Don’t have a Plan B. Relentlessly pursue Plan A.

Smith says “By even contemplating a Plan B, you almost create the necessity for a Plan B.”

As church leaders, while it is often a good idea to make plans, I think we sometimes get derailed from God’s vision for our lives by naysayers and setbacks. But if all we have is Plan A, we will work at it wholeheartedly because there is no other  option.

2. Read. Read. Read. Find your answers in books.

Will Smith has a library stocked with books on every topic imaginable. He reads and studies to find the answers he needs.

This reminds me of something Chuck Swindoll used to say: Readers are leaders.

3. Study what others have done, and emulate. Learn by watching others.

When Will Smith began his acting career, he would watch and emulate the various actors that came on the show, even mouthing their words after them when they rehearsed. Later, when he started to try to get into movies, he and his manager found a list of the 10 top-grossing movies of all time, and looked for patterns and similarities in them.

Church leaders can do this with churches, but we have to be careful how we define “success.” Big churches are not the most successful churches.

4. Be Friendly. Make contacts. 

Will Smith had a knack for charming his way out of trouble and winning friends.  This is how he met “DJ Jazzy Jeff” and later, James Lassiter, his manager.

Church leaders and planters cannot afford to be introverted. We must love to spend time with people.

5. Work hard. Be Diligent.

Will Smith has a good work ethic and works hard at everything he does.

Leading a church is not easy. It takes hard work and lots of sweat and tears.

Church Planting with Will Smith

6. Understand ideas, and which ideas move people.

Will Smith says that when studying movies, and which ones are popular, he tries to back up and get the big picture. “I look at movies in their essence,” Smith says. “Will that idea sell?” If you look at the movies Smith does, he always does movies that focus on an idea or a story that resonate with the vast majority of people on the planet. He is not just trying to entertain, he is trying to connect.

This is key for church planters. Too often we get caught up in the entertainment mode. But entertainment is fleeting; personal connections are forever.

7. Understand universal patterns.

This is related to number 6. Will Smith calls himself a student of universal patterns. He watches for movements in worldwide society and culture, and then tries to focus on these patterns. He and his manager sit down every Monday morning any analyze the box office numbers for the past weekend, as well as the past 10, 20, and 30 weekends. He is looking for trends and patterns.

We too can look for universal trends, needs, and patterns. Study history, culture, and relationships. These are the areas in which God is at work.

8. Think globally.

Will Smith doesn’t just want people in the US to see his movies. He wants to be a worldwide movie star. So after a movie debuts in the US, he travels to England, Germany, Japan, Brazil, China, and promotes his movies. This, of course, makes him popular with the movie producers because it is  more money for them.

So also with church planting. While our first focus is our neighborhood, we must also develop a global perspective. See the excellent book by Bob Roberts on this: Glocalization: How Followers of Jesus Engage a Flat World.

9. Go where the people are.

Since Smith didn’t initially have worldwide recognition, he knew it would be hard to get a worldwide platform unless he went where people were already gathering. So when he travels, he travels intentionally. He promotes his movies in South Korea at the World Cup, in Brazil during Carnival, and is headed to Beijing for the 2008 Olympics. Why try to gather a crowd on your own when you can just use a ready-made crowd?

Churches often try to gather their own crowds, and they spend huge sums of money and large amounts of time to do it. Why not just go to wherever the crowds are already gathering in town?

10. Never neglect what is important: family.

This I though was the most amazing thing of all. Hollywood actors are not known for stable marriages, mostly because they are trying to follow their dreams and make it big. Smith has been married for 10 years and says, “Our first official date was with a relationship counselor. The math is simple. Start while it’s good. Do it three times a week while you’re laughing and still having fun. You get so much more work done. You head off problems. Do it during the ether time, and do it aggressively.” Smith knows that all of his fame and glory is nothing if he doesn’t have a his wife and kids to share it with.

Church planters and church leaders take heed! What good does it do to have a huge church if you lose your wife and kids in the process?

Conclusion

Most of these ten principles are driven by secular goals. But if you go back through them, and substitute in spiritual, biblically-based goals, you have a surprisingly good list of what it takes to hear God say “Well done, good and faithful servant.”

God is Uncategorized Bible & Theology Topics: church growth, Church planting, Discipleship, evangelism, leadership, Theology of the Church

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