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The Publishing Gatekeepers are Defeated

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The Publishing Gatekeepers are Defeated

I have been hearing lots of complaints recently from traditional publishers, authors, and agents that some of the changes in the publishing world are ruining books forever. Their rants go something like this:

Now that everybody can publish a book, there’s going to be so much garbage out there! And it’s all so cheap! How can I charge $24.99 for a book if someone else is selling theirs for $2.99?!! How can I make a living?! We must stop all the independent publishers! We must tell the independent authors that their books are no good unless they get published through traditional publishing methods! We must tell the wannabe authors their ideas are no good! We must force Google, Amazon, and Apple to pay us more money!

I say that the eBook revolution will do for book publishing what the Gutenberg press did for book printing. And the sooner we embrace it, the better off we’ll be.ย There is publishing evolution going on, and those who fight it will become extinct.

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The publishingย gatekeepers with their secret handshakes and lofty glares remind me of the black knight in “Monty Python and the Holy Grail.” In case you haven’t seen it, here’s the video.

King Arthur represents the legion of authors who have tried to get published through traditional means for scores of years, only to be told “None shall pass!” The King even invited the Black Knight to join his quest, but the Knight refused. When King Arthur tried to pass by without a quarrel, the Knight blocked his way. So they battle.

As the battle progresses, the Black Knight loses both arms and both legs, and through it all, he still thinks he is going to win. Even as King Arthur and “Patsy” trot off (yes, with their coconuts… if you don’t understand, you have to watch the whole movie), the Black Knight screams after them, “Come back here! … I’ll bite your legs off!”ย Even after King Arthur cuts the Black Knight’s arms and legs off, the Black Knight still thinks he controls the bridge.

ebook publishingThis is the situation in the current publishing world. The gatekeepers think they still control the bridge, but Amazon, Google, Apple and a legion of self-published authors and independent publishers have hacked off the legs and arms of the traditional publishing methods. ย As we trot off into the publishing sunset, they yell after us, “Come back here! I didn’t give you permission to get published! You yellow bastards! Come back here and take what’s coming to ya!”

They think that opening up the publishing world so that anyone can get published will produce lots of published garbage? Well, of course it will! But have you checked the bookshelves of the typical bookstore recently? They’re filled with garbage!

They think that allowing eBooks to sell for $2.99 will hurt their ability to sell books for $24.99? Well, of course it will! …And that is a bad thing? Books have always been overpriced, and publishing companies and individual authors who want to control the price of books had better figure out a new way to make money… and quick.

Some complain that the new publishing models will allow anybody to get published. I say, “It’s about time!”

What do you think about the changes currently taking place in the publishing world? Let me know below.ย 

Oh… and do you want to get your book published in 2014? Stay tuned, because within the next two weeks I will tell you how… Hint: I am going to give you King Arthur’s sword…

God is Uncategorized Bible & Theology Topics: authors, Books by Jeremy Myers, ebooks, get published, publishing

Work and Prayer by C. S. Lewis

By Jeremy Myers
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Work and Prayer by C. S. Lewis

Below is a classic by C. S. Lewis on the relationship between work and prayer. See the related ย titled โ€œThe Efficacy of Prayerโ€ in C. ย S. Lewis,ย The Worldโ€™s Last Night and Other Essays.

CS Lewis - Work and Prayer

Work and Prayer

By C. S. Lewis

Even if I grant your point and admit that answers to prayer are theoretically possible, I shall still think they are infinitely improbable. I don’t think it at all likely that God requires the ill-informed (and contradictory) advice of us humans as to how to run the world. If He is all-wise, as you say He is, doesn’t He know already what is best? And if He is all-good, won’t He do it whether we pray or not?

This is the case against prayer which has, in the last hundred years, intimidated thousands of people. The usual answer is that it applies only to the lowest sort of prayer, the sort that consists in asking for things to happen. The higher sort, we are told, offers no advice to God; it consists only of “communication”โ€ฆwith Him; and those who take this line seem to suggest that the lower kind of prayer really is an absurdity and that only children and savages would use it.

I have never been satisfied with this view. The distinction between the two sorts of prayer is a sound one; and I think on the whole (I am not quite certain) that the sort which asks for nothing is the higher or more advanced. To be in the state in which you are so at one with the will of God that you wouldn’t want to alter the course of events even if you could is certainly a very high or advanced condition.

But if one simply rules out the lower kind, two difficulties follow. In the first place, one has to say that the whole historical tradition of Christian prayer (including the Lord’s Prayer itself) has been wrong; for it has always admitted prayers for our daily bread, for the recovery of the sick, for protection from enemies, for the conversion of the outside world, and the like. In the second place, though the other kind of prayer may be “higher” if you restrict yourself to it because you have got beyond the desire to use any other, there is nothing especially “high” or “spiritual” about abstaining from prayers that make requests simply because you think they’re no good. It might be a pretty thing (but, again, I’m not absolutely certain) if a boy never asked for cake because he was so high-minded and spiritual that he didn’t want any cake. But there’s nothing especially pretty about a boy who doesn’t ask because he has learned that it is no use asking. I think that the whole matter needs reconsideration.

CS Lewis - Work and PrayerThe case against prayer (I mean the “low” or old-fashioned kind) is this: The thing you ask for is either good โ€“ for you and for the whole world in general โ€“ or else it is not. If it is, then a good and wise God will do it anyway. If it is not, then He won’t. In neither case can your prayer make any difference. But if this argument is sound, surely it is an argument not only against praying, but against doing anything whatever?

In every action, just as in every prayer, you are trying to bring about a certain result; and this result must be good or bad. Why, then, do we not argue as the opponents of prayer argue, and say that if the intended result is good, God will bring it to pass without your interference, and that if it is bad, He will prevent it happening whatever you do? Why wash your hands? If God intends them to be clean, they’ll come clean without your washing them. If He doesn’t, they’ll remain dirty (as Lady MacBeth found) however much soap you use. Why ask for the salt? Why put on your boots? Why do anything?

We know that we can act and that our actions produce results. Everyone who believes in God must therefore admit (quite apart from the question of prayer) that God has not chosen to write the whole history with His own hand. Most of the events that go on in the universe are indeed out of our control, but not all. It is like a play in which the scene and the general outline of the story is fixed by the author, but certain minor details are left for the actors to improvise. It may be a mystery why He should have allowed us to cause real events at all, but it is no odder that He should allow us to cause them by praying than by any other method.

Pascal says that God “instituted prayer in order to allow His creatures the dignity of causality.” It would perhaps be truer to say that He invented both prayer and physical action for that purpose. He gave us small creatures the dignity of being able to contribute to the course of events in two different ways. He made the matter of the universe such that we can (in those limits) do things to it; that is why we can wash our own hands and feed or murder our fellow creatures. Similarly, He made His own plan or plot of history such that it admits a certain amount of free play and can be modified in response to our prayers. If it is foolish and impudent to ask for victory in war (on the ground that God might be expected to know best), it would be equally foolish and impudent to put on a [raincoat] โ€“ does not God know best whether you ought to be wet or dry?

The two methods by which we are allowed to produce events may be called work and prayer. Both are alike in this respect โ€“ that in both we try to produce a state of affairs which God has not (or at any rate not yet) seen fit to provide “on His own”. And from this point of view the old maxim laborare est orare (work is prayer) takes on a new meaning. What we do when we weed a field is not quite different from what we do when we pray for a good harvest. But there is an important difference all the same.

You cannot be sure of a good harvest whatever you do to a field. But you can be sure that if you pull up one weed that one weed will no longer be there. You can be sure that if you drink more than a certain amount of alcohol you will ruin your health or that if you go on for a few centuries more wasting the resources of the planet on wars and luxuries you will shorten the life of the whole human race. The kind of causality we exercise by work is, so to speak, divinely guaranteed, and therefore ruthless. By it we are free to do ourselves as much harm as we please. But the kind which we exercise by prayer is not like that; God has left Himself discretionary power. Had He not done so, prayer would be an activity too dangerous for man and should have the horrible state of things envisaged by Juvenal: “Enormous prayers which Heaven in anger grants.”

Prayers are not always โ€“ in the crude, factual sense of the word โ€“ “granted.” This is not because prayer is a weaker kind of causality, but because it is a stronger kind. When it “works” at all it works unlimited by space and time. That is why God has retained a discretionary power of granting or refusing it; except on that condition prayer would destroy us. It is not unreasonable for a headmaster to say, “Such and such things you may do according to the fixed rules of this school. But such and such other things are too dangerous to be left to general rules. If you want to do them you must come and make a request and talk over the whole matter with me in my study. And then โ€“ we’ll see.”

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God is Redeeming Church, Redeeming Life Bible & Theology Topics: answers to prayer, CS Lewis, Discipleship, faith, prayer, What is prayer, work

Ten Signs Your Church Doesn’t Understand Mission

By Jeremy Myers
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Ten Signs Your Church Doesn’t Understand Mission

church mission failHow can you tell if your church doesn’t understand it’s mission?

Sometimes the signs are pretty obvious that the church really doesn’t want to reach out and love others. But other times, we just don’t recognize the attitudes and behaviors which indicate a failure of our mission to be Jesus to the world.

Here are ten things you might hear in a Sunday service which will clue you in that your church leadership fails to grasp our missionย to enter the dark and dangerous places of this world with the Gospel of the Kingdom or the fact the church is something we are, not something we attend.

(Note: In my first church, Iย said almost all ten at one time or another.)

  1. At the beginning of the service: “Well, let’s go ahead and get started. Hopefully more people will show up. Let’s begin by praying for those who are home sick or still on their way.”
  2. At the beginning of the service: “I guess the bad weather outside is keeping people at home.”
  3. At the beginning of the service: “I guessย people are taking advantage of theย nice weather outside and going to the lake.”
  4. During the prayer time: “Father, we pray that you would bring the people of our community to Jesus and help them to believe the gospel.” (Churches generally pray about this more than they do it.)
  5. During the opening prayer: “God, we invite you into our presence today.”
  6. At the beginning of the prayer time, you hear “Father, we come into your presence today…” (What? Is He only in church?)
  7. During the call to worship, there is an invitation toย “leave your worldly cares behind.”
  8. During the opening welcome, you are told that “This is a safe place for you and your family.”
  9. During the opening welcome, you are invited to “Relax and enjoy your time. Get your batteries recharged.”
  10. In the announcements, you learn that there is a budget windfall, and to make the church more attractive to the community the board is trying to decide between repaving the parking lot or repainting the building.

There are dozens of others. Feel free to add to the list by leaving a comment below.

God is Uncategorized Bible & Theology Topics: be the church, church, mission, missional, Theology of the Church

The Refuge in Denver

By Jeremy Myers
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The Refuge in Denver

the refuge communityIn a previous post, I mentioned that I visited The Refuge in Denver, CO. They describe it as aย home for spiritual orphans, a place to gather hope.

Here is some of what I learned about “how” they do things at The Refuge. I don’t share this with you so you can copy it in your context, but simply to show you what others are doing around the country.

Main Meeting

Their “main meeting” is on Saturday night at a grange hall which they rent. The building is rather run down, but that is okay with everyone, since following Jesus isn’t about having nice buildings.

Since I was not able to attend one of their main meetings, I asked what they were like. Everybody told me that they were never the same. Sometimes they sat in rows. Sometimes in chairs around tables. Sometimes they sang songs, but not always. Sometimes there was a sermon, other times a group discussion.

One thing they do every meeting is communion. But even this is out of the ordinary. Those who come take turns providing the “elements.” In most churches, the elements consist of grape juice (or wine) and an unleavened wafer. But at the Refuge, the elements can be anything. They have used coffee and donuts,coke and pretzels, chips and salsa, and milk and brownies.

Frequently, after the meeting, many of the people get together for a meal, but I didn’t get any details on how this works.

Weekday Houses of Refuge

They currently have two Houses of Refuge, which function like a house church.

Kind of…

They meet in a home, and consist of a meal and some sort of group activity or discussion. The night I was there, we hadย lasagna. There was also coffee and dessert.

After about an hour of eating and chatting, we moved to the living room and sat on couches where we introduced ourselves (for the several new people that were there), and then discussed that the way of following Jesus was not upward mobility, but downward mobility, into the muck and messiness of life.

The discussion wasย facilitatedย by Kathy Escobar, but she is not always the facilitator. As with most everything else at the Refuge, leadership is shared. I was told that they often pick a theme to discuss, and then take turns over the next several weeks or months leading the discussions.

Near the end of the discussion, Kathy also passed around a sign-up sheet for people to bring food for the future gatherings.

Leadership at The Refuge

Currently, there are four co-pastors at The Refuge. They do not believe that there should ever be a single “senior pastor.” These four co-pastors do receive a tiny, tiny income, but nothing that anyone could live off of. I don’t know amounts, but I doubt it comes to much more than an average honorarium.

And the co-pastors are not “pastors” in the way most churches think of them. They seem to be closer to organizers or administrators of the church. When someone has a need, rather than call around asking everyone for it, they call a pastor, and the pastor organizes a way to help meet that need. Certainly, they also provide vision and spiritual direction to the church, but they are not the only ones who speak, or do ministry in the church.

Ministry at The Refuge

Many of the people I talked to spoke of the community they have fond at The Refuge. Most have never experienced any sort of community like what they have found here. I saw this first hand and sensed it as I watched them interact. In many ways, they are family. They are not perfect, but love each other anyway. They laugh together, cry together, and live life together.

As such, this is their ministry, and it is a compelling ministry for those who see it. I know I was drawn to it.

They also provide opportunities to reach out with love to other hurting people in the wider community. I heard some people talk about a service opportunity in a low-income apartment complex, and a few other things, but ultimately, their ministry seems to be each other.

When you are real with each other, as the people of The Refuge seem to be, this ministry is more than enough, and also draws other people in who are longing for communal love like this.

What do you think about all of this? Is it still too “churchy” for you? Are they not “churchy” enough? What do you think about how they have communion and co-pastors? Are there any other questions you might have?ย 

God is Uncategorized Bible & Theology Topics: Church planting, Kathy Escobar, ministry, mission, The Refuge, Theology of the Church

The Refuge in Denver

By Jeremy Myers
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The Refuge in Denver
House of Refuge in Denver
The House of Refuge occasionally offers dinners to the community.

I got to hang out at a The Refuge last week in Denver, CO. It consists of people who gather together to live life, and help each other through the messiness and pain of life.

The night I was there, some people from The Refuge met at the house of Jose and Kathy Escobar. After eating a meal, we sat around the living room and talked. The topic for the night was that most of us try to improve ourselves by climbing the moral ladder, but to really experience community with God and each other, we need to climb down the ladder back into the failures and stinkiness of life.ย The mess of life is where God meets us, where we meet ourselves, and where life really begins.

Kathy recently wrote a book about this, which explains what it means to follow Jesus on the downward path into pain, doubt, and darkness. Her book is titled,ย Down we Go,ย and I recommend you read it.

One of the amazing things for me about the group is not just the fact that people were there from a variety of backgrounds and beliefs, but that some of the people had moved from other parts of the country just to participate in a community like this.

People are starving for community, and it is not often found in the traditional church setting. There are most likely people who hunger and thirst for relationships right in your own neighborhood. This is one of the reasons it is so important to get to know our neighborsย (as Sam Riviera has been pointing out — and who previously wrote about The Refuge).

We are trying to do this sort of thing in the neighborhood we recently moved into, and hopefully, as we get to know our neighbors, we can build relationships with them that will allow us to help them (and be helped) through the messiness and stinkiness of life.

God is Uncategorized Bible & Theology Topics: Kathy Escobar, life, ministry, mission, The Refuge, Theology of the Church

Loving Others at Walmart

By Jeremy Myers
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Loving Others at Walmart

Here is a story from Sam Riviera about how he showed tangible love and concern for a woman he met outside of Walmart. As we seek to follow Jesus and be the church in our community, loving others with the love of Jesus can be as simple as caring for the person right in front of us.


Anotherย  winter day, but the temperature in the sun in front ofย  thatย  Walmart here in San Diego was well over one hundred degrees.ย  Somehow I never noticed Annabelle when I went into the store.ย  But I saw her and heard her when I came out.

โ€œPardon me sir.ย  Would you like to give something to help the homeless?ย  Even a quarter would be appreciated.โ€

loving others at walmartAnnabelle was sitting in the hot sun at a small table with a sign that named the group for whom she was fundraising.ย  Another sign said โ€œAsk me for my testimony.โ€ย  Annabelle was dripping sweat.

โ€œTell me about this group youโ€™re raising money for,โ€ I said.ย  โ€œHow did you get involved with these people?โ€

Annabelle told me about how the group had helped her and her daughter get off the street and break her addiction to drugs.ย  She said that she is following Jesus now.

โ€œI had a job, but lost it a couple of months ago because of the economy.ย  So I thought I should try to give backย  by sitting out here fundraising.โ€

โ€œYou look like youโ€™re cooking out here in the sun.โ€

โ€œI am.ย  I feel like a piece of roast beef, but Iโ€™m going to stay.โ€

Annabelle went on to tell me that some people are kind to her, and some are not.ย  Some call her nasty names, tell her she is whatโ€™s wrong with this country, and some even tell her she is ugly.

I told her itโ€™s how God sees us that counts.ย  In Godโ€™s eyes, weโ€™re beautiful.

โ€œI know that, but sometimes itโ€™s hard sitting here with people saying some of those things.ย  The devil tempts me to not be nice to them.ย  But I try real hard to be nice to them anyway.โ€

After giving Annabelle a donation, I told her my wife and I would pray for her and asked how she would like us to pray.

โ€œPlease pray for my teenage daughter and my teenage niece who lives with us.โ€

โ€œShould we pray for a job for you also?โ€

โ€œYes, I need a job.ย  But Iโ€™m not worried about me so much as Iโ€™m worried about those girls.ย  Iโ€™m right with Jesus and Iโ€™m OK.โ€

We shook hands and hugged.ย  Apparently the group of people that had gathered around us listening to our conversation were not familiar with seeing customers and fundraisers hugging in front of Walmart.

When I got home, I remembered that we had a clip-on beach umbrella in the closet that we probably didnโ€™t really need.ย  A little later I fastened it on Annabelleโ€™s table, since I had to “pass by that way anyhow on my way to an appointment.” ย (My appointment was really in the opposite direction, but Annabelle didn’t need to know that.)ย  Someone had given her a cold drink and she said she had already eaten lunch.

โ€œCan people see you under that umbrella when they come out of the store?โ€

โ€œEven if they canโ€™t see me, I can see them and they can hear my big mouth.ย  God bless you and your wife!โ€

As I walked back to my car I could hear Annabelle.

โ€œPardon me, sir.ย  Would you like to give something to help the homeless?โ€

Please pray for Annabelle, her daughter andย  her niece.

Be the Church in Your Community

Be the ChurchWant to be the church in your community but don't know? Here are some posts which not only explain what it means to be the church in your community, but also gives concrete, practical examples of what it looks like and how to be the church whatever you do and wherever you go. Remember, you ARE the church, and wherever you go, Jesus goes with you!
  • How to Be the Church in Your Community
  • The Tribe and the Church
  • Church Tribes vs. the Jesus Tribe
  • How to Preach the Gospel to your Neighbors
  • Being the Church is Loving the Person in Front of You
  • 4 Practical Suggestions for Being the Church in your Community
  • Love Like Jesus by Listening to People
  • Welcome New People to the Community
  • Finding Jesus in Denver
  • Loving Others at Walmart
If you have questions about how to be the church in your community, please let us know in the comment sections below, and we will try to write a post which answers your question.

God is Uncategorized Bible & Theology Topics: be the church, Discipleship, homeless, Sam Riviera

Gossip – Stop it!

By Jeremy Myers
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Gossip – Stop it!

gossip - stop itOne thing we Christians love to do is gossip. I suppose that due to the Papparazi gossip machine and gossip-heavy magazines like โ€œPeopleโ€ it is only natural Christians fall into this social trend of listening to and spreading rumors about other people. Itโ€™s natural, but then, so is all sin.

Ironically, in churches today, we are more prone to condemn โ€œhomosexuals,โ€ โ€œabortionists,โ€ and โ€œdemocratsโ€ than those who gossip. But did you know that the Bible speaks out against the sins of the tongue more than any other sin? I have a sneaking suspicion that the Bible condemns gossip more than all the other sins combined. Someone should do a study on that.

So, if you like to point the finger at others, and send e-mails about how Mr. Leader is moving into heresy (i.e., anything you donโ€™t believe), and make phone calls to put your neighbor on the โ€œprayer chainโ€ (Gasp, Can you believe she got pregnant out of wedlock?!), what you are really doing is committing the number one sin of Scripture.

You know what I say to all of this? Watch the following video to find out.

This poor lady is dealing with a different issue than gossip, but the advice she received can be applied to those of us who gossip: STOP IT.

God is z Bible & Theology Topics: Christian sin, Discipleship, gossip, humor, sin, sins

An Open Letter to Christians from a Queer

By Jeremy Myers
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An Open Letter to Christians from a Queer

This guest post is by an anonymous person. Even though he is not ashamed of whom he is, he has chosen to remain anonymous to avoid embarrassing family members who are still evolving on these issues. This post was condensed from interviews with our anonymous poster.

This is Part 4 of 4 Blog Posts from this person. If you missed them, please also read Part 1: I Am Queer, Part 2: Don’t Hate Me for Being Queer, and Part 3: Queer Christians.

Whether you agree or disagree with what he says, please be gracious in how you respond.

An Open Letter to Christians from a Queer


Dear Christian,

If you want to claim the title “Christian,” then try to look and act like Jesus. If you have the idea that you should be looking for sin in anyone, look in the mirror, not at me or at anyone else.

Shunning me, quoting Bible verses to me, telling me what you think the Bible says (youโ€™re usually wrong), telling me Iโ€™m disgusting and an abomination, telling my friends the same things and all the other unloving things you do and say to us has got to stop.

None of us think you look like Jesus, so if you plan to wear the name, then be who you say you are. Feed the hungry, clothe the naked, help the poor, the orphans and the widows. Love your neighbors, and that includes all of us LGBTQโ€™s. Even if we frighten you or make you feel uncomfortable, love us. And not just with words. Show us you love us.

Get to know some addicts, some dealers, some hookers, some human traffickers. Sit down and talk to them. Find the homeless when itโ€™s raining and sit with them. Eat with them. Learn to love all of these people just as they are. Donโ€™t try to change them. If you think other people should change, then talk to Jesus. Heโ€™s the only one who can change them. I canโ€™t change them. You canโ€™t either.

When I was out there in this messy life, walking without Jesus, you did not love me. I wanted nothing to do with you or your religion. You did not come to me. But Jesus did. Jesus found me.

Get over yourself.ย Look like Jesus, or stop posing as one of his people.

If you ever decide to really look like Jesus and do the kind of things he did, weโ€™ll notice. Word will get around. Donโ€™t bother telling us. We wonโ€™t believe you. Show us. Show us your love. We will know you are a Christian by your love.

With love,

Your friend, a Queer

queer christian

Do you have questions for me? Do you want to hear more of my story? Make sure you read the other three posts linked to above. If there is enough interest, we can do a Q&A in a future post.

God is Redeeming Theology Bible & Theology Topics: gay, homosexual, lgbt, looks like Jesus, queer

Queer Christians

By Jeremy Myers
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Queer Christians

This guest post is by an anonymous person. Even though he is not ashamed of whom he is, he has chosen to remain anonymous to avoid embarrassing family members who are still evolving on these issues. This post was condensed from interviews with our anonymous poster.

This is Part 3 of 4 Blog Posts from this person. Please also read Part 1: I Am Queer, Part 2: Don’t Hate Me for Being Queer,ย and Part 4:ย An Open Letter to Christians from a Queer.

Whether you agree or disagree with what he says, please be gracious in your comments below.


gay and christianMost of us are not stupid. We can spend a few hours reading the New Testament Gospels and get a pretty good idea what Jesus is like. Itโ€™s also pretty clear that people who call themselves Christians (I read somewhere that means little Christs) should look and act like Jesus.

Why donโ€™t Christians look more like Jesus? They cut me off on the freeway with Jesus stickers and church stickers all over their car and give me the finger for being in their way. My sister decided to try going to church and got screamed at because they thought her shorts were too short.

Some guy came into my business, cursed me out and got very ugly because he said an employee of the business had given him incorrect information on a previous day. Guess who was sitting on the platform the next Sunday when I tried out a new church? He was introduced as the assistant pastor. Guess who never went back to that church?

Who is the Freak?

Many of my friends think that is how most Christians behave. But when I tell them that I am a Christian, they think I am a freak. Isn’t that interesting? Because I am queer, Christians think I am a freak. But because I am a Christian, my LGBT friends think I am a freak.

My friends think Christians are (Iโ€™m trying to think of nicer versions of the words they really say)… not nice, nothing like Jesus. They think Iโ€™m deluded, because, although I claim to be a Christian, I like LGBT people. They are my friends. Iโ€™m nice to them. My LGBT friends have never met a Christian who was nice to them before. Therefore, in their minds, I canโ€™t possibly be a Christian. Christians have never been nice to them.

When I march with my friends, Christians scream at us and tell us we are going to hell. When we try to attend church, Christians (mis)quote Bible verses to us, donโ€™t accept us, hope weโ€™ll stay away. When Christian coworkers learn of our sexual orientation, they try to get us fired from our jobs, spread lies about us, and usually hate us.

We’ve been threatened, hit, thrown out of our homes and families, and told “You’re dead to me.”

Such behavior does not look like Jesus to me.

Am I Queer or am I Christian?

People like to ask, “Can a queer be a Christian?” My friends and I wonder why many Christians are so queer. They claim to follow Jesus, but look nothing like Him? Isn’t that odd? Isn’t that… queer?

gay and christianMy friends and I have discussed all of this. Their conclusion is that either this “Jesus thing” is a crock or these people who bear his name aren’t Christians.ย We’ve all read about Jesus in the Bible, and these “Christian” people don’t look anything like him. Maybe he was a one-of-a-kind and itโ€™s not possible to be anything like him.

My conclusion:ย Most people who call themselves Christians are chasing religion instead of following Jesus.

I believe that Jesus is real. I believe it truly is possible to follow him. It is possible to look and act like him.

My friends are LGBT. I am Q. That stands for Queer. I love Jesus and I like who I am. I am who I was created to be. I am not a mistake. My friends are not mistakes. We are created in the image of God.

Jesus had nothing to say about LGBTQ. He had lots to say about divorce. How many Christians do I know who are divorced? – Probably about half of them. I donโ€™t treat them like crap. Where did Jesus tell me to do that? โ€“ He didnโ€™t. He told me to love them. So I do.

Do you have questions for me? Do you want to hear more of my story? There will be one more post this week in which I will share more about me, and if there is enough interest, we can do a Q&A in a future post.

God is Uncategorized Bible & Theology Topics: gay, guest post, homosexual, lgbt, looks like Jesus, queer

Don’t Hate Me for Being Queer

By Jeremy Myers
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Don’t Hate Me for Being Queer

This guest post is by an anonymous person. Even though he is not ashamed of whom he is, he has chosen to remain anonymous to avoid embarrassing family members who are still evolving on these issues. This post was condensed from interviews with our anonymous poster.

This is part 2 of 4 blog posts. See Part 1 here: I am Queer,ย Part 3:ย Queer Christians, and Part 4:ย An Open Letter to Christians from a Queer.

Whether you agree or disagree with what he says, please be gracious in your comments below.


The people many of us have the most difficulty loving are the people who hate us. Please donโ€™t make it difficult for me to love you because you hate me for who I am – for being queer.

Even if you disagree with who I am or what I believe, donโ€™t hate me. I donโ€™t hate you. We probably donโ€™t agree on many things, but I donโ€™t hate you because of that. We can disagree, but still love each other with the love of Jesus who lives in us.

Jesus loves all of us. Thatโ€™s why he became one of us. If he loves us, and became one of us to show his great love for us, then is he not the one to tell us to love each other? Did he make a mistake when he told us that?

queer Are you young or old, fat or thin, Democrat or Republican? Are you for or against a certain issue? Are you rich or poor? Do you go to church or synagogue or nowhere? Are you straight or gay? Do you live in a big house or under a bush? Do you smoke marijuana? – Regardless of your answers to these questions, I can still love you because Jesus loves you.

If I hate you, how can Jesus and his love live in me? โ€“ I donโ€™t think it can.

A friend told me he murdered someone when he was younger, for which he was sent to prison. Another cheated on his wife. Another divorced her husband because she got tired of him. Another divorced his wife so he could live with his boyfriend. Another abused his wife and she left him. Yet I hate none of these people, but love them, even though the stories Iโ€™ve described were choices they made.

Even if I think the Bible seems to condemn certain actions, I do not hate someone because they did those things. So how could I hate you for who you are? How could I hate you for how tall you are, the color of your skin, your age, your gender or for your sexual orientation?

I don’t hate you, no matter who you are or what you have done. Please don’t hate me either. Please don’t hate me for being queer.

Do you have questions for me? Do you want to hear more of my story? There will be two more posts this week in which I will share more about me, and if there is enough interest, we can do a Q&A in a future post.

God is Uncategorized Bible & Theology Topics: gay, guest post, homosexual, lgbt, looks like Jesus, queer

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